When I get started... it all pours out. Well, quite often I type up a post, then chicken out and delete it, and things just build up... but today, I am completely tired out so I am posting this bravely.
I am trying to have some kind of half term with my children but the care home keep phoning me up telling me mum is demanding to talk to me, and is being agitated and throwing wobblers, demanding I collect her and take her home. She has been very agitated lately.
Does anyone else get these problems? Or am I being mean not jumping to mums aid all the time? I visit mum fequently but am trying to spend some time with my family just for a change. I am tired out with trying to juggle visits, and keep everyone happy and I have definately been putting the family last for ages now.
Mum has been in the care home for over a year now and I am fed up of jumping to it each time the care home phone me, or when mum demands I visit and I am left with impossible demands from her, as I cannot cope for long when I have mum at home with me. I feel really upset, and stressed with it all.
I feel mean not running to mum's rescue when she feels so imprisoned, but, its a nice day and I feel I should spend time with the kids for a change, but, I am always torn in two.
Does anyone else get regular phone calls from the care home? They say that mum has rights, and they are going with her requests to phone me. However, I can never realistically solve mums frustrations...... Help!
How do others cope? Just wondered....
I am trying to have some kind of half term with my children but the care home keep phoning me up telling me mum is demanding to talk to me, and is being agitated and throwing wobblers, demanding I collect her and take her home. She has been very agitated lately.
Does anyone else get these problems? Or am I being mean not jumping to mums aid all the time? I visit mum fequently but am trying to spend some time with my family just for a change. I am tired out with trying to juggle visits, and keep everyone happy and I have definately been putting the family last for ages now.
Mum has been in the care home for over a year now and I am fed up of jumping to it each time the care home phone me, or when mum demands I visit and I am left with impossible demands from her, as I cannot cope for long when I have mum at home with me. I feel really upset, and stressed with it all.
I feel mean not running to mum's rescue when she feels so imprisoned, but, its a nice day and I feel I should spend time with the kids for a change, but, I am always torn in two.
Does anyone else get regular phone calls from the care home? They say that mum has rights, and they are going with her requests to phone me. However, I can never realistically solve mums frustrations...... Help!
How do others cope? Just wondered....