Hello
My mother has Alzheimer's which was diagnosed last year. She was self caring and quite bright until recently but is now getting more confused.
Care help from social services has been going in four times a day and this was for medication and ensuring she was eating and drinking. This had been put in place following a stay in hospital after a fall.
Last week when I went in to see her (I go once a week only as she has previously not wanted to see me for 27 years due to who I married and my brothers have been her all consuming family and have been to weddings etc and Xmas events which my family have been ostracized from. I did not want to come back into her life as was happy out of it but my brother chucked in the towel with her and then her sister did the same sue I was sent the bank card to just oick up the slack and shop and look after her.) to take her shopping down she didn't appear to have had her pills etc as organised and said the pharmacy man had been with them and just left them on the side. I thought on this and was a bit worried but can't explain why exactly.
Also the floor was wet and she said a man had been in to fix the problem. It just sounded wrong.
Anyway I couldn't find the Carer's signing in and out book to check she had her pills etc so when I got home I emailled and asked if things were ok. Turns out after they checked that they had stopped the visits to her FOUR WEEKS earlier. No one has told me anything apart from the email reply.
I am registered disabled myself and being in poor health I'm admitting I'm not up to this any more and can't cope with her. I feel abandoned, alone and very down in the dumps. Her family won't rally to help and I feel if I don't stop soon I'll end up very ill myself.
I wonder if I could ask a bit of advice on where to go or what to do? The Memory Clinic promised pills and outings and help with Power Of Attourney (as I have no control on who she buys from and workmen she has in from flyers through the letter box and I think there may have been one or two. Her Social Worker has not contacted me about the Care Package so I have lost faith in this and the Care Agency have abandoned us without notice.
Thanks for listening.
Sue
My mother has Alzheimer's which was diagnosed last year. She was self caring and quite bright until recently but is now getting more confused.
Care help from social services has been going in four times a day and this was for medication and ensuring she was eating and drinking. This had been put in place following a stay in hospital after a fall.
Last week when I went in to see her (I go once a week only as she has previously not wanted to see me for 27 years due to who I married and my brothers have been her all consuming family and have been to weddings etc and Xmas events which my family have been ostracized from. I did not want to come back into her life as was happy out of it but my brother chucked in the towel with her and then her sister did the same sue I was sent the bank card to just oick up the slack and shop and look after her.) to take her shopping down she didn't appear to have had her pills etc as organised and said the pharmacy man had been with them and just left them on the side. I thought on this and was a bit worried but can't explain why exactly.
Also the floor was wet and she said a man had been in to fix the problem. It just sounded wrong.
Anyway I couldn't find the Carer's signing in and out book to check she had her pills etc so when I got home I emailled and asked if things were ok. Turns out after they checked that they had stopped the visits to her FOUR WEEKS earlier. No one has told me anything apart from the email reply.
I am registered disabled myself and being in poor health I'm admitting I'm not up to this any more and can't cope with her. I feel abandoned, alone and very down in the dumps. Her family won't rally to help and I feel if I don't stop soon I'll end up very ill myself.
I wonder if I could ask a bit of advice on where to go or what to do? The Memory Clinic promised pills and outings and help with Power Of Attourney (as I have no control on who she buys from and workmen she has in from flyers through the letter box and I think there may have been one or two. Her Social Worker has not contacted me about the Care Package so I have lost faith in this and the Care Agency have abandoned us without notice.
Thanks for listening.
Sue