Dear Readers,
I use this post like many others visiting the website for advice, support and of course in the hope that maybe I can help others who suffer similar circumstances. As a daddy's girls I can confirm that my knowledge of all sports and DIY comes as a surprise to many as a 'girl'. The truth is I spent much of my child hood by my dads side helping him around the house, from re-wiring plugs to pouring his beer in preparation for a big football game on the tv. I went to many football matches with my dad and would join him in whatever he was doing - including cleaning cars and visiting the local tip. My boyfriend can confirm that I didn't pick up any skills in cookery and cleaning although my mum was truly amazing at just generally being a mum.
My dad was diagnosed at the age of about 55 with dementia even though his illness didn't display many of the normal signs. His memory was good but he became a very frightened man, frightened of failing on day to day life. He went into respite at about 60-61 years and never came home. This really was the best and safest place for him to be.
He is now 65 years old and I feel the end is close. All that is left of a man I admire, look up to and miss unbelievably is a frail, weightless shell. He is now having problems eating and is not mobile.
I just wanted to share that during the past 6 months i have not been wanting to visit my dad, scared that i will forget the man that brought me up and avoiding the pain that the visits bring. Whilst many have supported my reasons to not want to see my father in his current situation some have said that I should be visiting and strongly disagree. Until the last two weeks I hadn't seen my dad since November. It was my choice and although I wanted to visit for my mums support with her, I didn't feel that it was what I personally wanted to do.
I have as mentioned above i have now seen my dad (the past two weekends) and I do feel glad that I have been able to look into his eyes and mentally transmit my thoughts that he is my biggest hero and that I will meet him with the angels. Now we wait...again for the final stage. I just wish I could of set him free from dementia some years ago..
Please take this message as: don't let others decide, manipulate you into thinking that choosing not to visit is the wrong thing. Each of us are all individuals and I truly believe my father would not want me to visit and suffer the pain seeing him now so very poorly. I'm glad I visited but wouldn't regret it if I hadn't. It's something very personal and no other individual can tell you what's right and wrong...
He will soon be with the angels in peace, where he belongs. When this day comes I will find the strength to focus on this.. Xxxx
I use this post like many others visiting the website for advice, support and of course in the hope that maybe I can help others who suffer similar circumstances. As a daddy's girls I can confirm that my knowledge of all sports and DIY comes as a surprise to many as a 'girl'. The truth is I spent much of my child hood by my dads side helping him around the house, from re-wiring plugs to pouring his beer in preparation for a big football game on the tv. I went to many football matches with my dad and would join him in whatever he was doing - including cleaning cars and visiting the local tip. My boyfriend can confirm that I didn't pick up any skills in cookery and cleaning although my mum was truly amazing at just generally being a mum.
My dad was diagnosed at the age of about 55 with dementia even though his illness didn't display many of the normal signs. His memory was good but he became a very frightened man, frightened of failing on day to day life. He went into respite at about 60-61 years and never came home. This really was the best and safest place for him to be.
He is now 65 years old and I feel the end is close. All that is left of a man I admire, look up to and miss unbelievably is a frail, weightless shell. He is now having problems eating and is not mobile.
I just wanted to share that during the past 6 months i have not been wanting to visit my dad, scared that i will forget the man that brought me up and avoiding the pain that the visits bring. Whilst many have supported my reasons to not want to see my father in his current situation some have said that I should be visiting and strongly disagree. Until the last two weeks I hadn't seen my dad since November. It was my choice and although I wanted to visit for my mums support with her, I didn't feel that it was what I personally wanted to do.
I have as mentioned above i have now seen my dad (the past two weekends) and I do feel glad that I have been able to look into his eyes and mentally transmit my thoughts that he is my biggest hero and that I will meet him with the angels. Now we wait...again for the final stage. I just wish I could of set him free from dementia some years ago..
Please take this message as: don't let others decide, manipulate you into thinking that choosing not to visit is the wrong thing. Each of us are all individuals and I truly believe my father would not want me to visit and suffer the pain seeing him now so very poorly. I'm glad I visited but wouldn't regret it if I hadn't. It's something very personal and no other individual can tell you what's right and wrong...
He will soon be with the angels in peace, where he belongs. When this day comes I will find the strength to focus on this.. Xxxx