Hi
I am new on here but am really looking for some support or answers, my mum was diagnosed with Alzhimers recently, dad and I knew she had this probably a couple of years ago, as she really changed, started to get aggressive towards him, saying things to others and upsetting people to the point that no one would talk to her. Her memory started to go slowly but more frequently. Dad was at his witts end, so my hubby and I supported him fully and have been back and forth to the docs for over five years trying to get her help, but because she kept saying nothing was wrong and wouldnt go he said his hands where tied. Well things got a whole lot worse, and with shear determination and alot of heartache, they finally got her diagnosed and she had a brain scan.
Dad does everything for her now, he cooks, cleans, manages her money, everything, he is 76 and is sooo tired, trying to get him help is a nightmare just to give him so respite, I pop in every other night to ensure they are eating and they are ok, but working fulltime with my own family I am limited. He really needs proper care, they have a great guy called Seth who isnt a career but think he's a pysc nurse, but they only see him as and when because he has another 48 patients.
The thing is now she keeps wandering off, she takes herself out and then the Co-op calls me at work to say shes there and I have to go and get her and take her home, shes in a right state, she imagines poeple have been in the house, she does tend to hulllicinate alot like this, when dad sits right in front of her she doesnt know who he is which breaks his heart, and she gets so upset, she repeats herself so much I dont how he keeps so calm.
She can tell me the same thing about 30 times in five mins, BUT THEN, the next day she can sound normal, remember names, if she goes out and the Co-op call, if I go to get her or my eldest son who is 22, she instantly remembers us by name, Im find this hard as if she cant remember getting there, and cant remember how to walk home how can she remember us??
My dad is really poorly with a chest infection and trying to cope with this is impossible, I have spoken to Seth (her mental health team) and have now told him , but even he said that when she went into the day centre on Monday, she was very lucid and it was hard to access her because she was having a good day, yet Dad said as soon as they left the day centre she went mad , and was going mental at Dad.
Its ok for Seth, I dont think they realise what its like, their only in the house for half hr or less, just to pop in, they are not with it 24/7, Im really worried that my dad is going to have a break down, please help me!!!! to help them.
I seriously need advice, having someone pop round once a week is not enough, a 76 yr old man who is not well cannot handle this.
Im so sick of hearing adverts for "If you think someone close to you has dimetia call now or speak to your doctor", we've been doing this for five years!!!
Help Please
I am new on here but am really looking for some support or answers, my mum was diagnosed with Alzhimers recently, dad and I knew she had this probably a couple of years ago, as she really changed, started to get aggressive towards him, saying things to others and upsetting people to the point that no one would talk to her. Her memory started to go slowly but more frequently. Dad was at his witts end, so my hubby and I supported him fully and have been back and forth to the docs for over five years trying to get her help, but because she kept saying nothing was wrong and wouldnt go he said his hands where tied. Well things got a whole lot worse, and with shear determination and alot of heartache, they finally got her diagnosed and she had a brain scan.
Dad does everything for her now, he cooks, cleans, manages her money, everything, he is 76 and is sooo tired, trying to get him help is a nightmare just to give him so respite, I pop in every other night to ensure they are eating and they are ok, but working fulltime with my own family I am limited. He really needs proper care, they have a great guy called Seth who isnt a career but think he's a pysc nurse, but they only see him as and when because he has another 48 patients.
The thing is now she keeps wandering off, she takes herself out and then the Co-op calls me at work to say shes there and I have to go and get her and take her home, shes in a right state, she imagines poeple have been in the house, she does tend to hulllicinate alot like this, when dad sits right in front of her she doesnt know who he is which breaks his heart, and she gets so upset, she repeats herself so much I dont how he keeps so calm.
She can tell me the same thing about 30 times in five mins, BUT THEN, the next day she can sound normal, remember names, if she goes out and the Co-op call, if I go to get her or my eldest son who is 22, she instantly remembers us by name, Im find this hard as if she cant remember getting there, and cant remember how to walk home how can she remember us??
My dad is really poorly with a chest infection and trying to cope with this is impossible, I have spoken to Seth (her mental health team) and have now told him , but even he said that when she went into the day centre on Monday, she was very lucid and it was hard to access her because she was having a good day, yet Dad said as soon as they left the day centre she went mad , and was going mental at Dad.
Its ok for Seth, I dont think they realise what its like, their only in the house for half hr or less, just to pop in, they are not with it 24/7, Im really worried that my dad is going to have a break down, please help me!!!! to help them.
I seriously need advice, having someone pop round once a week is not enough, a 76 yr old man who is not well cannot handle this.
Im so sick of hearing adverts for "If you think someone close to you has dimetia call now or speak to your doctor", we've been doing this for five years!!!
Help Please