Swollen ankles
Hi fellow carers, when my wife was in a NH she developed swollen ankles and feet.
Like many other things which happened to her, it appears to me that it was taken as part of the course. We still have the outsize slippers I bought for her. I was silly enough to accept a lot of miss information then. Once I got her home she was near dead. I'd given away all her lovley shoes and kept just one pair of new leather boots which now fit her feet, which are back to normal.
Her feet became swollen due to her being left sitting for long periods in chairs, and wheelchairs which had the rests missing. Now, whenever she's seated, it's always with her feet up.
There are a hosts of other damages the NH caused, not on purpose I might add, they didn't know any different. Most of these I've managed take care of without medication, others were very serious which required medical attension, which I insisted on being involved. Thankfully to-day Jean's as well as can be expected. I can't change the past but if there's a chance I can help others I consider it my duty to do so. Now, I know a lot of medication is administered for damages caused, rather than preventing the causes.
Many of the posts I read here are a repeat of what both Jean and I have been through which I find frustrating, not being able to help. Worst of all SS and all the support people are too busy to stop and visit. They see I cope fine, and make silly remarks like "Your a one off". It doesn't occur to them to think " how come he's managed to turn things around?"
It appears to me there's little intrest once one's reached the final stages. Could it be nobody likes to admit they might be getting it wrong? Padraig