Thanks for the helpful comments so far - more help needed!
I have just joined and this is my first port of call. I need help as to how I/we (my brother and sister and I) help my mother (aged 91) settle in to what is the best care/nursing home there is around. It's not the closest to any of us, but Mum has always been extremely critical so we thought that a flat in a purpose built home with 24 hour care and lots of activities laid on would the best place for her after a bout of pneumonia left her frail and very confused. She has now been there 6 weeks, and we have had yet another meeting with the managers - she is convinced that no one comes if she rings for help so she doesn't bother and we cannot make her, she rings me instead to complain, argue - you all know what I mean. Yesterday was very bad - she could not finish words, totally confused, but adamant that there are going to be changes. I am certain that her next move will be to stop taking her essential water pills, as she says they rule her life. Everyone including her doctor have explained the consequences but she cannot seem accept the wonderful care being offered. It could be a battle of wills but I will not allow that, I just walk away rather than argue; any ideas much approciated. GTiGranny