I havent posted since Donal's death on the 5th april 2012. I thought I had accepted that Donal had suffered enough over the many years of alzheimers and he now deserved to be at peace but sadly thats not the way it has turned out. Over the funeral,wake ,and all the essential arrangements I coped well enough but as time has gone on it's getting worse and worse.
alzheimers was a struggle for both of us but I would prefer to have him to look after than to be here on my own with no sense of purpose. I hate being on my own and yet when Im in company I want to get away and be on my own. I just dont understand my behaviour anymore. Even when a friend asks me to go out for a walk I can actually lie to her to avoid walking. When I go to bed at night I think of the last ten days we sat with him and I try so hard to live every minute of it. As some will know he was in a nursing home very close to where we live and the home was my home over the years so that Icould always be with him. In those years when I was in bed I never remember reaching out in bed to hug him now Im doing it all of the time.
I feel so miserable mentally and physically and im so angry with myself. Ive posted hoping that it will help me understand whats going on. Thanks Pat
alzheimers was a struggle for both of us but I would prefer to have him to look after than to be here on my own with no sense of purpose. I hate being on my own and yet when Im in company I want to get away and be on my own. I just dont understand my behaviour anymore. Even when a friend asks me to go out for a walk I can actually lie to her to avoid walking. When I go to bed at night I think of the last ten days we sat with him and I try so hard to live every minute of it. As some will know he was in a nursing home very close to where we live and the home was my home over the years so that Icould always be with him. In those years when I was in bed I never remember reaching out in bed to hug him now Im doing it all of the time.
I feel so miserable mentally and physically and im so angry with myself. Ive posted hoping that it will help me understand whats going on. Thanks Pat