My mum has had AD for quite a few years and went into a care home 18 months ago. Because of my own disabilities she and myself came to realise we could no longer manage and I was unfortunately unable to give her the 24/7 care which she needed.
She settled in smashing and joined in with the other residents where possible and was always very friendly and kind to everyone and was well liked by the staff.
Over the last 6 months we have noticed big changes, and this last 2 months has been terrible. I know it is the AD which has caused such a rapid change and she no longer resembles 'my mum' at all.
She has become incontinent, hallucinating, talking to people who aren't there. She thinks the staff and other residents hate her and she is always crying and saying she has done nothing wrong. Won't leave her room, thinks people are stealing from her. I could go on and on!
Mental Health doctor put her on sertroline to try calm her and mementine, now increased to 20mg). He is coming to see her again in 2 weeks but care manager said she would phone Monday to try get him to come sooner. Even she said it is cruel to have someone suffer like this. Had test for UTI but clear this time.
I visit most days and have brought mum home once a week but last three weeks haven't brought her home as she started being awkward with me at home and wouldn't let any of us help her (she has difficulty walking) and insisted on going to loo by herself which my daughter helps her with here at home as I am unable to, and caused havoc in bathroom. Fell through being obstinate with me and I was all the rotten **** under the sun. It upset my grandchildren, they were in tears so I decided I couldn't risk this anymore. It has all upset me so much I can't stop worrying and hardly sleeping at all.
She calls me 'Mum' which is so very sad but I realise now that this is not my mum, it is the disease talking.
Care home ring me when she is very upset and anxious and they are finding it difficult to calm her down but if mum comes on the phone she has hearing difficulties and can't hear me, she just cries and says everyone hates her. My son played heck with me and said I should tell them not to ring me as I get upset and he says she is in care and they should be seeing to her but my argument is that even though she is in a care home, she is my mum and I love her to bits and if I can help to calm her then I will. I am so upset and wish everyone would just leave me alone to care the best way I can. Not sure of the stages in AD but believe she must now be around the 6 stage.
Sorry for the long rant but just need to know there are others out there coping and understanding the same problems as me, my family and mum. When will this agonising journey through life ever end? Is there a God, if so why do people have to suffer this extremely cruel illness? I hope he is up there somewhere as I pray to him every night hoping one day he will answer me. Take care everyone. Sunbell xx
She settled in smashing and joined in with the other residents where possible and was always very friendly and kind to everyone and was well liked by the staff.
Over the last 6 months we have noticed big changes, and this last 2 months has been terrible. I know it is the AD which has caused such a rapid change and she no longer resembles 'my mum' at all.
She has become incontinent, hallucinating, talking to people who aren't there. She thinks the staff and other residents hate her and she is always crying and saying she has done nothing wrong. Won't leave her room, thinks people are stealing from her. I could go on and on!
Mental Health doctor put her on sertroline to try calm her and mementine, now increased to 20mg). He is coming to see her again in 2 weeks but care manager said she would phone Monday to try get him to come sooner. Even she said it is cruel to have someone suffer like this. Had test for UTI but clear this time.
I visit most days and have brought mum home once a week but last three weeks haven't brought her home as she started being awkward with me at home and wouldn't let any of us help her (she has difficulty walking) and insisted on going to loo by herself which my daughter helps her with here at home as I am unable to, and caused havoc in bathroom. Fell through being obstinate with me and I was all the rotten **** under the sun. It upset my grandchildren, they were in tears so I decided I couldn't risk this anymore. It has all upset me so much I can't stop worrying and hardly sleeping at all.
She calls me 'Mum' which is so very sad but I realise now that this is not my mum, it is the disease talking.
Care home ring me when she is very upset and anxious and they are finding it difficult to calm her down but if mum comes on the phone she has hearing difficulties and can't hear me, she just cries and says everyone hates her. My son played heck with me and said I should tell them not to ring me as I get upset and he says she is in care and they should be seeing to her but my argument is that even though she is in a care home, she is my mum and I love her to bits and if I can help to calm her then I will. I am so upset and wish everyone would just leave me alone to care the best way I can. Not sure of the stages in AD but believe she must now be around the 6 stage.
Sorry for the long rant but just need to know there are others out there coping and understanding the same problems as me, my family and mum. When will this agonising journey through life ever end? Is there a God, if so why do people have to suffer this extremely cruel illness? I hope he is up there somewhere as I pray to him every night hoping one day he will answer me. Take care everyone. Sunbell xx