My husband has Alzheimer's but is still quite good generally. I have put a thread on here before about this matter. I did not have a good day yesterday as I took my husband to a tea room. Its like a hobby to him to joke with every single person that we meet.
Sometimes when we pass people he does a hide and seek act whereby he starts shaking on purpose pertending to be frightened of them running him over when they are on a bike or something. He sort of crouches down whilst shaking and it looks most weird. The odd person will laugh but he gets strange looks. I have told him that I don't like it and other members of the family just don't know where to put themselves as they feel embarrased by it such as at a party the other evening. It was a bit funny at first but gets tiring for me when it happens regularly. I can understand children might laugh about it sometimes but he will do it even to one serious looking person on a biking expedition and it doesn't seem appropriate. My husband enjoys himself I know that the main thing but it does look so strange and it really isn't for everyone one.
He went Xmas shopping up the town yesterday too I offered my support to go with him but he really wanted to do it on his which is good. However, he came back with stories such as he walked past three Chinese gentleman and they were all talking together and my husband put his fingers in his own ears to pretend he couldn't cope with them apparentely they didn't look amused but laughed once by husband said its his sence of humour! He also told me how he stood in front of a restaurant window and rubbed his tummy pretending to be hungry and then played hide and seek by hiding then going to the window again, back and forth to a family in a restaurant. He said they all laughed, yes it is funny in away but I notice people laugh because they don't know what else to do sometimes.
My husband is very friendly and his jokes are very witty sometimes times and I probably am a little serious but I am so worried that he is going to upset someone one day because he approaches people. Most people are ok but I find it so hard to see my husband behaving in this way, I just can't believe it. He puts his hand out to people saying 'any free samples?' or 'have you any chocolate' I even take chocolate on our walks to try to distract him from saying this in case he really does want some.
My husband is fully aware of this behaviour and he even mentions sometimes in conversation that I don't really like it but he says its the way he is.
Yesterday I got cross and said that constant joking behaviour is putting me off going out with on our lovely walks and holidays and that he has to cut it down as its getting me down, I don't know if this will work.
Is there anyone else who experiences this? I do feel like I'm the only one and that my husband is the only one who seems to have this hobby. It feels likes its an addiction he has.
Also there were two ladies in the tea room and they were friendly, however I just felt my husband talked to them a little two long and although some of the conversation was fine I just feel its inappropriate for him to show them his hand as he lost half a finger when he was a child but I just feel its not the time or place to do this when they have just had a nice cup of tea and slice of cake.
My husband's behaviour does not help my confidence and makes me feel vunerable. I have tried to ignore it for ages now but when I spoke to someone yesterday she said I am just allowing it if I don't voice my opinion about and so I did as I said above.
Reds x
Sometimes when we pass people he does a hide and seek act whereby he starts shaking on purpose pertending to be frightened of them running him over when they are on a bike or something. He sort of crouches down whilst shaking and it looks most weird. The odd person will laugh but he gets strange looks. I have told him that I don't like it and other members of the family just don't know where to put themselves as they feel embarrased by it such as at a party the other evening. It was a bit funny at first but gets tiring for me when it happens regularly. I can understand children might laugh about it sometimes but he will do it even to one serious looking person on a biking expedition and it doesn't seem appropriate. My husband enjoys himself I know that the main thing but it does look so strange and it really isn't for everyone one.
He went Xmas shopping up the town yesterday too I offered my support to go with him but he really wanted to do it on his which is good. However, he came back with stories such as he walked past three Chinese gentleman and they were all talking together and my husband put his fingers in his own ears to pretend he couldn't cope with them apparentely they didn't look amused but laughed once by husband said its his sence of humour! He also told me how he stood in front of a restaurant window and rubbed his tummy pretending to be hungry and then played hide and seek by hiding then going to the window again, back and forth to a family in a restaurant. He said they all laughed, yes it is funny in away but I notice people laugh because they don't know what else to do sometimes.
My husband is very friendly and his jokes are very witty sometimes times and I probably am a little serious but I am so worried that he is going to upset someone one day because he approaches people. Most people are ok but I find it so hard to see my husband behaving in this way, I just can't believe it. He puts his hand out to people saying 'any free samples?' or 'have you any chocolate' I even take chocolate on our walks to try to distract him from saying this in case he really does want some.
My husband is fully aware of this behaviour and he even mentions sometimes in conversation that I don't really like it but he says its the way he is.
Yesterday I got cross and said that constant joking behaviour is putting me off going out with on our lovely walks and holidays and that he has to cut it down as its getting me down, I don't know if this will work.
Is there anyone else who experiences this? I do feel like I'm the only one and that my husband is the only one who seems to have this hobby. It feels likes its an addiction he has.
Also there were two ladies in the tea room and they were friendly, however I just felt my husband talked to them a little two long and although some of the conversation was fine I just feel its inappropriate for him to show them his hand as he lost half a finger when he was a child but I just feel its not the time or place to do this when they have just had a nice cup of tea and slice of cake.
My husband's behaviour does not help my confidence and makes me feel vunerable. I have tried to ignore it for ages now but when I spoke to someone yesterday she said I am just allowing it if I don't voice my opinion about and so I did as I said above.
Reds x