Hello all, firstly can I say sorry if I have got this in the wrong place! Still feeling my way around the forum!
My mother was diagnosed with dimentia last year, although we had noticed for several years that "something was not right".
I know diddly squat about it all really, and so far everything I have read has frightened me further!
She lives alone approx a mile and a half from me, but has really got to the stage that we feel she is no longer safe to be left on her own for much longer. We have converted a barn recently with the idea that she could come and live with us, but would have her own space (but would still be close enough to keep an eye on her).
One of the (many) difficulties we are having with her is that she is changing her mind from one day to the next as to whether or not she wants to come and live here. Some days she's all for it, admitting that she does not feel safe in her own (isolated) home, others she will find any silly excuse to not come (doesn't like the cottage ceiling, walls, garden etc etc etc).
I just don't know what to do for the best. If I force her to come here I'm afraid the upheaval will be too much for her and make her worse. If I leave her there and something happens to her I will never forgive myself (found her yesterday up a tree with a chainsaw!)
Any words of wisdom?
Annette
My mother was diagnosed with dimentia last year, although we had noticed for several years that "something was not right".
I know diddly squat about it all really, and so far everything I have read has frightened me further!
She lives alone approx a mile and a half from me, but has really got to the stage that we feel she is no longer safe to be left on her own for much longer. We have converted a barn recently with the idea that she could come and live with us, but would have her own space (but would still be close enough to keep an eye on her).
One of the (many) difficulties we are having with her is that she is changing her mind from one day to the next as to whether or not she wants to come and live here. Some days she's all for it, admitting that she does not feel safe in her own (isolated) home, others she will find any silly excuse to not come (doesn't like the cottage ceiling, walls, garden etc etc etc).
I just don't know what to do for the best. If I force her to come here I'm afraid the upheaval will be too much for her and make her worse. If I leave her there and something happens to her I will never forgive myself (found her yesterday up a tree with a chainsaw!)
Any words of wisdom?
Annette