I watched this programme, Celia, and like you I had very mixed feelings. Deep sadness, much admiration.
I had very mixed feelings watching it, sadness and admiring their resilience and feistiness in the face of adversity. I came away thinking that this should be viewed by social workers and others of that ilk to make them realise the person behind the case notes number and they are a person with their own history, fears and feelings and not just a statistic in their workload. Also, that things and reasons arent always what they appear on the surface.
I also felt fear. I am 78, now living alone since my husband went into hospital almost two years ago, never came home, now 17 months in a care home.
Fear because this year I have had a taste of what it is like to be extremely vulnerable, and old. My age and physical problems have been the least of my concerns since dementia came into our lives about 9 years or so ago.
Then in March I was in hospital three weeks followed by months of being housebound and alone. Except for one kind near neighbour who did some shopping and after some months, once I could walk from my house to her car, took me to visit my husband once a week. I was unable to drive again for over three months.
My daughter who lives about 150 miles north came down twice for several nights while I was in hospital and two over-night stays soon after I came home. But she is married, has her family life, a full-time job, responsibilies and commitments, and like many parents with no family living nearby, or living abroad, and who do not often see their adult children we were an independent couple who got on with our everyday lives, and now I am living alone, that has contiued.
In hospital after several days of drifting in and out of consciousness I 'came to' in a geriatric ward with mainly dementia patients. I personally experienced the terribly wrong attitudes to the elderly and witnessed it concerning patients who did have dementia. It was a traumatic experience which still affects me, not only on a personal level, but concerning the elderly and particular the elderly with dementia who have to go to hospital.
We know it happens, but to experience it yourself really hammers it home.
It made me feel not only sympathy but empathy with the three people in the programme. Like Jimbo, I could relate to them.
I have experienced how it feels to have your independence endangered. Something I previously took for granted, but now fear ever losing it - or having it taken from me. Celia, I doubt if social workers can see an individual as a person with their own history. They can only see a vulnerable person as 'a case'.
Doris, Kitty and Frank are wonderful people, strong and immensely interesting characters, and long may they be able to live their chosen life styles, keep their independence. Their stories strengthened my own feelings about keeping mine. But I do now know how very suddenly and easily it could be jeopardized.
I did wonder if any TPers watched this programme but saw no mention, until your thread, Celia. Thanks for that. A lot can be learned from programmes concerning the old.
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Celia, I have just read your last post. Is CVS for 'Community Volunteer Service/s'? I like the idea of the befriending scheme. I am in Scotland, I don't think there is anything like that in my area. It sounds wonderful.
Loo x PS Sorry about the icon at the top, second time that has happened with a post and I can't remove it.