hi, have posted on here but not really introduced myself,
At the moment pops is undergoing testing and lives at home with mom and sis is also there helping out, I live around 160 miles away and have been trying to get home as much as poss at the moment, to take pops out, we have had some great days out and I have got to know a different side to the man I know, which is lovely, also making things and doing art, games, puzzles. this also to give mum a break as she is the one that is their 24/7 and maybe get her to go to the pub with sis.
Pops started doing odd things about two years ago, gradually progressing, last september, we all was on holiday and was not to bad apart from making sure we didn't lose him because he would not of made it back to the room, now asks me who I am, is confused about being in 'someone elses home', and fading too fast from the bright spark he used to be.
Now my question is, have told mum that she needs to take some time to herself and pops has been offered two days a week at a local center, he went and thought it was great, lots of gardening and projects etc, mum tends to think is a geriatric bunch that sit around alot, know this is because she doesn't like the thought of him going, dont know weather this is because she feels responsable to keep him active, or maybe would feel she was abondoning him, know that if pops was 'in his right mind' would be the last place he would be, but think would be good to have additional stimulation and input and mum, desperatley needs some time to self.
have asked mum just maybe start with 1/2 day a week and see how goes, was also thinking of may be taking pops there myself as off for a couple of weeks, and seeing how he goes, looking at the long term can see mum getting burnt out and that she needs a bit of time to herself, and am I wrong to try and force my hand just because I think I'm trying to do the right thing?
any advice welcome,
At the moment pops is undergoing testing and lives at home with mom and sis is also there helping out, I live around 160 miles away and have been trying to get home as much as poss at the moment, to take pops out, we have had some great days out and I have got to know a different side to the man I know, which is lovely, also making things and doing art, games, puzzles. this also to give mum a break as she is the one that is their 24/7 and maybe get her to go to the pub with sis.
Pops started doing odd things about two years ago, gradually progressing, last september, we all was on holiday and was not to bad apart from making sure we didn't lose him because he would not of made it back to the room, now asks me who I am, is confused about being in 'someone elses home', and fading too fast from the bright spark he used to be.
Now my question is, have told mum that she needs to take some time to herself and pops has been offered two days a week at a local center, he went and thought it was great, lots of gardening and projects etc, mum tends to think is a geriatric bunch that sit around alot, know this is because she doesn't like the thought of him going, dont know weather this is because she feels responsable to keep him active, or maybe would feel she was abondoning him, know that if pops was 'in his right mind' would be the last place he would be, but think would be good to have additional stimulation and input and mum, desperatley needs some time to self.
have asked mum just maybe start with 1/2 day a week and see how goes, was also thinking of may be taking pops there myself as off for a couple of weeks, and seeing how he goes, looking at the long term can see mum getting burnt out and that she needs a bit of time to herself, and am I wrong to try and force my hand just because I think I'm trying to do the right thing?
any advice welcome,