Hi, I'm a first timer. I've read many of the threads and have found the support fantastic and have found answers to some of my problems.
But today is a new situation and I wondered if there was anyone out there who can suggest which direction I go in next. My Dad has mixed dementia (AD/VD) and his decline has up until recently been steady. At the beginning of August he went to stay in a home for 10 days to allow me and my family to go on a much needed holiday. Since he's been home his memory and general mood have really declined. So much so that he has now had his care stopped because he has 'attacked' the carers - this last week has been a litany of aggression, grabbing the carers, falling over , accusing people of things, saying that I've been ignoring him - only because I've been ill and like many on TP my own mental health is suffering too.
I received a call today from the carers saying that the lady who had gone in had left after he was very agressive and told her to get out (it seems it was caused by him refusing to take his tablets). She was reluctant to go back at lunchtime, but was persuaded and my longsuffering husband went to his house to be there too. He observed my dad's awful behaviour and not suprisingly we have been advised that care has been suspended until he has been assessed by a GP. Being the weekend we've had to contact out of hours services -my husband has now been waiting nearly 7 hours for the GP to arrive. What happens then? We can't keep going to my Dad's to do the carer's job, especially during the week, and we've got our kids too.
Does this suggest that I'm going to have to start looking for suitable care homes? It's harder too as I'm an only one, so no family support. Friends are great at listening, but I don't want them to constantly hear about my problems with Dad - they're all fortunate to have parents in fairly good health and have both parents still around.
Any advice would be gratefully accepted. Thanks
But today is a new situation and I wondered if there was anyone out there who can suggest which direction I go in next. My Dad has mixed dementia (AD/VD) and his decline has up until recently been steady. At the beginning of August he went to stay in a home for 10 days to allow me and my family to go on a much needed holiday. Since he's been home his memory and general mood have really declined. So much so that he has now had his care stopped because he has 'attacked' the carers - this last week has been a litany of aggression, grabbing the carers, falling over , accusing people of things, saying that I've been ignoring him - only because I've been ill and like many on TP my own mental health is suffering too.
I received a call today from the carers saying that the lady who had gone in had left after he was very agressive and told her to get out (it seems it was caused by him refusing to take his tablets). She was reluctant to go back at lunchtime, but was persuaded and my longsuffering husband went to his house to be there too. He observed my dad's awful behaviour and not suprisingly we have been advised that care has been suspended until he has been assessed by a GP. Being the weekend we've had to contact out of hours services -my husband has now been waiting nearly 7 hours for the GP to arrive. What happens then? We can't keep going to my Dad's to do the carer's job, especially during the week, and we've got our kids too.
Does this suggest that I'm going to have to start looking for suitable care homes? It's harder too as I'm an only one, so no family support. Friends are great at listening, but I don't want them to constantly hear about my problems with Dad - they're all fortunate to have parents in fairly good health and have both parents still around.
Any advice would be gratefully accepted. Thanks