Hi all,
Just wondering if anyone has any ideas for visiting my mum with small children? Mum is 66 and has early onset. My dad and I made the difficult decision to put her into care in April, mainly because he was unable to cope at home. Mum had become aggressive and also doubly incontinent. I have two small children, max who is 4 months and Alex who is .3 year old. I have taken max, who is a very calm little chap and it has been fine. But I do have reservations about Alex, he is a normal 3 year old and pretty boisterous! She did become unsettled around him, plus now there are others in the Emi unit and I am not sure how they would respond, also would Alex become upset? I suppose maybe I want to take them more for me than her??? It is difficult to get childcare and finding time to visit is restricted by this. I really want them to know her, but as she is not really herself most of the time is this just silly?
I do feel pulled by my commitment to mum and my family, life is pretty hectic and I don't seem to be able to give anyone enough time. I want to be there for mum but this is at the detriment of my kids and husband. I would go every day if I could, just to sit with her and reassure her. She was a fantastic mum, always there for us and I want to Be there For her too. In some senses the thought of her there alone wondering where her family is haunts me.
Any advice on how to deal would be really appreciated!
Anne x
Just wondering if anyone has any ideas for visiting my mum with small children? Mum is 66 and has early onset. My dad and I made the difficult decision to put her into care in April, mainly because he was unable to cope at home. Mum had become aggressive and also doubly incontinent. I have two small children, max who is 4 months and Alex who is .3 year old. I have taken max, who is a very calm little chap and it has been fine. But I do have reservations about Alex, he is a normal 3 year old and pretty boisterous! She did become unsettled around him, plus now there are others in the Emi unit and I am not sure how they would respond, also would Alex become upset? I suppose maybe I want to take them more for me than her??? It is difficult to get childcare and finding time to visit is restricted by this. I really want them to know her, but as she is not really herself most of the time is this just silly?
I do feel pulled by my commitment to mum and my family, life is pretty hectic and I don't seem to be able to give anyone enough time. I want to be there for mum but this is at the detriment of my kids and husband. I would go every day if I could, just to sit with her and reassure her. She was a fantastic mum, always there for us and I want to Be there For her too. In some senses the thought of her there alone wondering where her family is haunts me.
Any advice on how to deal would be really appreciated!
Anne x