So, early evening wine-laden rant beginning because my OH must be sick of hearing it and he's only been home from work for an hour. My Mam (85, 6 kids, Writer, Politician, Socialist, AD, Vas.Dem. grumpy, sweet, old Lady, lives in her own home...'I DON'T NEED HELP, I've got 3 daughters') is totally unaware that her children are beginning to hate each other. I'm youngest and have 25yr old 6ft8ns severely disabled, doubly incontinent, autistic son and have never had respite care for him. My oldest sister and I share care of Mam. Making sure she has breakfast, Meds., Lunch, Tea. Clean house, do gardening, outings.All me Mam does is eat, poo, twist her face and show you the occasional bit of her old self(enough to keep ME going) Middle sister takes her shopping once a week and gives med 3 mornings. Then there's me Brothers Oldest Bro retired policeman, best one died, next one wife/child beating, adulterer but me mother thinks the Sun emerges from his backside Both Brothers think we're; A Exaggerating the extent of Mams' problems B Exaggerating the extent of Mams' problems C Exaggerating the extent of Mams' problems. Apparently if we talked to her more her brain would be stimulated and heal(this from wife-beater) or the Policeman one 'Why didn't you tell her about forthcoming family get-together?' in an exasperated, bossy Coppers' voice.... WE DID YOU FOOL, SHE FORGETS! Should I...A. KILL THEM B. Hang them in the corner and cut bits off them each day C. Wait until tomorrow and do both ....answers on a postcard to 'That Quivering Loony, In the Corner' And oldest sister and middle sister JUST say speaking to each other