My Mum is nolonger withbus but.......
2009-2010 I was very happy with the place she used to go for respite breaks. It also offered day care she used to go to day care for two days a week and respite for one week in six. It was a very small unit one floor with ten beds, not all en suite but at that stage she was mobile and pretty independent etc. This home was marvellous, dare I say it was local authority and will be closing very soon(stupid council). It had a games room with snooker table, safety darts, etc, very well resourced craft room, dining room, three lounges and conservatory, a sensory room, and a hairdressing room. The staff were excellent, always taking in things form home, and they even had pet cockatiels, chickens and ducks. Of course the clients were only mild to moderate dementia but it was outstanding in every way. I was always offered a cup of tea at the very least here, and made to feel welcome.
Jan2011-Aug 2011 The second him she was in was also local authority (and is also sadly being closed soon) this was a residential home, The rooms were adequate and all had thier own sinks but not toilets or shower/bath (personally I think en suite is a waste of time anyway s once people progress few can manage and unassisted bath/shower or toiletting). The ground floor was arranged around a square courtyard so residents could wander around the corridors all day and night if they wished. there were several lounges one as themed as a 50s cafe/bar. Loads of rummage boxes, several other lounges a relaxation room, a main dining room with a vaulted ceiling, and a secondary quieter dining room. Again people here were at a moderate to moderately severe stage of dementia and still independent in many ways though most needed help wit personal care, and feeding etc. Again here staff were excellent, long serving and caring, when my Mum had to go to hospital they even had the forethought to pack me some sandwiches when I accompanied her, and on another occasion they sent a carer with her for company. There were regular social activites and outings and staff were very supportive of fundraising and volunteered time off to support activities and outings. Again family were made to feel welcome and given cups of tea etc.
Sep - Dec 2011The final home Mum was in she went to because she needed nursing care and was on "end of life" here she had a single room with en-suite which was no use to her at all as she was bedbound. By now she was on puree food and the food here was dubious, staff seemed too busy to spend time with her and when I asked one person I knew what it was like she told me the clients without relatives did not get such good care as their was no one to speak up for them and they concentrated their efforts on the people who might make a fuss - I was one
However Mum was always clean and her room always appeared tidy and well kept. There were occasional problems with laundry and her nighties running out (in the previous home she always ended up with extra clothes somehow), and on occasion I had to question carers methods - laying a client with dysphagia down to feed them so their mouth opens, and I also had to make a fuss about pain cover at times. This home was privately owned by a large care home company, it pays minimum wage and employs many foriegn staff which also created problems with a language barrier. However certain people shone out - the activities co-ordinator who read to Mum every day, and arranged a Priest to visit her, and the staff on duty when she died who were compassionate and kind beyond beleif. I did not spend much time here outside of Mums room her floor had three lounges, two dining rooms and a small craft room. There was always some activity in the afternoon,but little outside of a key two hour slot. I felt this place was more to do with money than lives.
In many ways these comparisons are not fair in that they do not really take in the differing degree of dementia. But I feel they do reflect a general empathy and atmosphere within each home, the thing I found and continue to find having visited other relatives etc in care is that by and large the privately owned homes are poorly staffed, poorly maintained, and seem to attract a poorere quality of carer whereas the local authority and charity run homes seem much better.
I hope this helps