I have seen a lot of posts lately, here and on another forum I post on, about older people with dementia who are left to live alone in their own homes with the "kind neighbours" keeping an eye on them. I want to ask - is this fair?
I have always been a "kind neighbour" even when completely snowed under caring for Mum and Ray I seemed to attract the helpless in our community and learned to be "supportive" to the elderly around my neighnbourhood. I always did it out of kindness but very few relatives acknowledged what I did. I just was an anonymous friend who helped. Only one daughter-in-law brought me a bunch of flowers to say thanks.
I know looking back I must have saved the families thousands of dollars in care home fees as I struggled to take in washing because it was raining, put out rubbush bins, take up mail and hurry up to my neighnours' in answer to a summons to please do this and that. I never minded helping the old and lonely but I do sometimes resent now that with one exception no-one from their families ever bothered to say thank you.
Sue.
I have always been a "kind neighbour" even when completely snowed under caring for Mum and Ray I seemed to attract the helpless in our community and learned to be "supportive" to the elderly around my neighnbourhood. I always did it out of kindness but very few relatives acknowledged what I did. I just was an anonymous friend who helped. Only one daughter-in-law brought me a bunch of flowers to say thanks.
I know looking back I must have saved the families thousands of dollars in care home fees as I struggled to take in washing because it was raining, put out rubbush bins, take up mail and hurry up to my neighnours' in answer to a summons to please do this and that. I never minded helping the old and lonely but I do sometimes resent now that with one exception no-one from their families ever bothered to say thank you.
Sue.
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