I was wondering if anyone else had been in a similar situation. Both my parents were diagnosed with dementia at the same time a couple of years ago - Mum had Parkinsons and Lewy body dementia, Dad has Vascular dementia with Alzheimers and has virtually no short term memory and very little speech ability (or ability to follow a conversation). They've remained at home with 24/7 care but my Mum spent most of her time in bed over the last 6months or so, and my Dad seemed to forget who she was - once or twice pointed at her and asked who she was, but that was it. My Mum died on Friday after several weeks in hospital and the funeral is next week. The carers say my Dad hasn't asked about her apart from going into her room one day and commenting that "something's missing" but didn't seem concerned. My gut feeling is not to tell him on the basis he probably won't understand who or what I am talking about, probably won't remember but worst of all if he did remember part of what I said it might trigger him to look for her and get upset. But part of me feels horrible about not telling him because they were so close and married for over 50years - especially since it was their wedding anniversary today.