Hi.
Can somebody please advise me?
My dear friend who lives in Canada has recently and suddenly been taken into care with memory loss and confusion, etc. age 67. She lived alone with her two dogs but had a live-out boyfriend nearby and great neighbours. One of her dogs died of cancer not long before she came over to England in May for a 10 week stay with me.
In spite of her sadness at the loss of her pet, we both enjoyed her stay so much.
Just before she was due to return home in July her boyfriend phoned to tell her her other dog, who was very old and had been ill for a while, had died too - a double whammy for her.
The thing is that she keeps saying she doesn't know where her dogs are, and that nobody will tell her.
I know it is because we don't want to hurt her all over again when she barely had got over losing them, but should I just tell her as gently as possible that she has forgotten some things and her dogs have died?
Or will this confuse her even more and upset her too much?
Right now she thinks she will be coming out soon and going home to her flat ( she doesn't live in a flat) and finding her passport again.
Thank you.
Jeeees. Doesn't it hurt, this dementia thing? She had had a lot of hurt in her life and was only just starting to be happy again.
I am gutted. Dementia was my fear, not hers.
Can somebody please advise me?
My dear friend who lives in Canada has recently and suddenly been taken into care with memory loss and confusion, etc. age 67. She lived alone with her two dogs but had a live-out boyfriend nearby and great neighbours. One of her dogs died of cancer not long before she came over to England in May for a 10 week stay with me.
In spite of her sadness at the loss of her pet, we both enjoyed her stay so much.
Just before she was due to return home in July her boyfriend phoned to tell her her other dog, who was very old and had been ill for a while, had died too - a double whammy for her.
The thing is that she keeps saying she doesn't know where her dogs are, and that nobody will tell her.
I know it is because we don't want to hurt her all over again when she barely had got over losing them, but should I just tell her as gently as possible that she has forgotten some things and her dogs have died?
Or will this confuse her even more and upset her too much?
Right now she thinks she will be coming out soon and going home to her flat ( she doesn't live in a flat) and finding her passport again.
Thank you.
Jeeees. Doesn't it hurt, this dementia thing? She had had a lot of hurt in her life and was only just starting to be happy again.
I am gutted. Dementia was my fear, not hers.