As some you may know, we have been looking after our neighbour for a couple of years now. She has two carers from Poland, who take it in turns to live with her, but she likes us to pop over and be with her.
A week ago i took her to an ear specialist, because she complained of not being able to hear. Sure enough her ears were blocked and the doctor cleaned them out. She was fully aware of where she was and quite chatty. The very next day, my neighbour complained of pain and has not been out of bed since. She spent one day in hospital, but they couldnt find anything. Since then she has become incontinent, doesnt recognise my husband any more, still knows me, but is refusing to eat, drink or take her medicine. The GP now wants her son (also a doctor) to decide whether she should be admitted to hospital.
I fear she is dying, she doesnt want to live. Tomorrow I shall try and get her to eat something, she ate a little this evening. What should we do. She is totally unhappy, her husband died January last year, her daughter lives 8 hours away and is very cool towards her mother. Her son lives 2 hours drive but cant bring himself to pop over more than once a month. he hates us, because we blew up and told him what we thought of his behaviour. His mother worships him but he says he has problems himself and cant face his mother.
I feel it is a terrible burden for us to decide whether this poor woman lives or not. I am sure if I spoon fed her and stayed with her most of the day she could live a year or so. She is 90. Her Polish carers want her to live and cant understand how the children can be so hard. Are we prolonging the agony for her? She keeps saying she wants God to take her. I am not religious, but she is.
If we keep out of it then I am sure she will die soon. What is best? I just hope we dont end up like this poor woman. How can children be so cold hearted.
A week ago i took her to an ear specialist, because she complained of not being able to hear. Sure enough her ears were blocked and the doctor cleaned them out. She was fully aware of where she was and quite chatty. The very next day, my neighbour complained of pain and has not been out of bed since. She spent one day in hospital, but they couldnt find anything. Since then she has become incontinent, doesnt recognise my husband any more, still knows me, but is refusing to eat, drink or take her medicine. The GP now wants her son (also a doctor) to decide whether she should be admitted to hospital.
I fear she is dying, she doesnt want to live. Tomorrow I shall try and get her to eat something, she ate a little this evening. What should we do. She is totally unhappy, her husband died January last year, her daughter lives 8 hours away and is very cool towards her mother. Her son lives 2 hours drive but cant bring himself to pop over more than once a month. he hates us, because we blew up and told him what we thought of his behaviour. His mother worships him but he says he has problems himself and cant face his mother.
I feel it is a terrible burden for us to decide whether this poor woman lives or not. I am sure if I spoon fed her and stayed with her most of the day she could live a year or so. She is 90. Her Polish carers want her to live and cant understand how the children can be so hard. Are we prolonging the agony for her? She keeps saying she wants God to take her. I am not religious, but she is.
If we keep out of it then I am sure she will die soon. What is best? I just hope we dont end up like this poor woman. How can children be so cold hearted.