Hi Karjo
You have received some sound advice around making sure that personal items are marked with Mums name. It is always difficult to decide what to take and what gets left behind with a move to a care setting, I would suggest that the first step must be to decide on where Mum will be going and then have a good chat with the manager and staff to explore what scope you have to bring her own items in and how they will best meet Mums physical needs to be involved and maintain her creative interests.
As a woman, I am horrified at the idea of 'communal handbags'! I do support the notion of having a number of interactive items around for everyone to enjoy and explore, but nothing would replace my own personal handbag containing all the 'junk' I have carried around for years, 'just in case' I need it. I would also suggest that if Mum is used to having money in her purse, then this is also something important that would reduce her stress level, be practical about the amount she has and as already suggested, her credit cards may also be important, even if they are no longer in date so can't be used. When my uncle was in care, he refused to eat or drink anything that he didn't think he had paid for, he also needed to feel he had done a fair days work as he had done throughout his life. The activity coordinator was amazing in understanding his needs and thinking outside of the box to find 'jobs' for him to do.
Choose you items based on what Mum will relate to best rather than what might look best, it is important that she feels 'at home' in her personal space so if possible, mirror what she might have had at home. It is often tempting to buy new and smarter items of clothing but if Mum doesn't recognise these items as her own, she may well reject them and search for what she believes is hers.
The most importnant item you can give the home would be a personal profile for your Mum, this can be a simple outline of who she is and what she likes to talk about and do, it is also vital to include and areas that might be sensitive for Mum so that staff can understand her life history and be supportive of her sense of reality.
If you are still struggling with this, I would strongly advise you to contact your local ALzheimer's Society service ( you can find the contact details on our website) and have a chat with them?
I wish you and your Mum a sucessful move and hope you can continue the special relationship you have.
With very best wishes
Cathy