Hi All
This is not a post for a problem as such rather I am wondering if I have done right thing.
Dad 86 diagnosed 3 months ago with Alzheimers and I have not told him.(He was in hospital at time and the Doctor rang me at home and told me results of brain scan)The reason being that my dear Mom (passed 3 years) had it and it was the most terrible time as anyone that posts on here knows,sadly,themselves. Dad did not treat her well and to compound things she had Capgras syndrome and things got horrendous.
I decided that he does not need to know and so far has no idea. He recently had 2 psychiatrists come out and he is deemed no mental capacity now but he remembers that they were physios!
When we go to Doctors or hospital appointments-he has many for lots of problems- they look at screen and only comment on his "memory problems" to which Dad takes no notice.
To make matters worse he is blaming me for bringing the "army" in, as he calls his carers, consultants, doctors and all other professional people he sees on a regular basis. He is most hostile to me and very verbally aggressive and I guess I wonder if he knew he had the illness would he understand I am doing it all for his best interests
Also he is quite obsessed with money and has thousands at his disposal and I am about to go to court of protection for guardian/deputy ship for his financial affairs. The person has to be told so I wonder what will happen and what he will think when it lands on his mat-no doubt think I am "stealing" his money, because after all as far as he is concerned there is nothing wrong with him.
I feel like I am opening a big can of worms and for what? he has no treatment and obviously there is no cure.
Anyway it was just to see if anyone was successful in hiding it from their relative and do they think it was right decision. Incidentally we kept it from Mom and the only thing she said quite early on, in a determined voice was "hey you pair, I haven't got that dementia thingy going on you know!" bless her soul.
Appreciate any comments.
This is not a post for a problem as such rather I am wondering if I have done right thing.
Dad 86 diagnosed 3 months ago with Alzheimers and I have not told him.(He was in hospital at time and the Doctor rang me at home and told me results of brain scan)The reason being that my dear Mom (passed 3 years) had it and it was the most terrible time as anyone that posts on here knows,sadly,themselves. Dad did not treat her well and to compound things she had Capgras syndrome and things got horrendous.
I decided that he does not need to know and so far has no idea. He recently had 2 psychiatrists come out and he is deemed no mental capacity now but he remembers that they were physios!
When we go to Doctors or hospital appointments-he has many for lots of problems- they look at screen and only comment on his "memory problems" to which Dad takes no notice.
To make matters worse he is blaming me for bringing the "army" in, as he calls his carers, consultants, doctors and all other professional people he sees on a regular basis. He is most hostile to me and very verbally aggressive and I guess I wonder if he knew he had the illness would he understand I am doing it all for his best interests
Also he is quite obsessed with money and has thousands at his disposal and I am about to go to court of protection for guardian/deputy ship for his financial affairs. The person has to be told so I wonder what will happen and what he will think when it lands on his mat-no doubt think I am "stealing" his money, because after all as far as he is concerned there is nothing wrong with him.
I feel like I am opening a big can of worms and for what? he has no treatment and obviously there is no cure.
Anyway it was just to see if anyone was successful in hiding it from their relative and do they think it was right decision. Incidentally we kept it from Mom and the only thing she said quite early on, in a determined voice was "hey you pair, I haven't got that dementia thingy going on you know!" bless her soul.
Appreciate any comments.
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