My mum has Alzheimers, but has never asked or been told what is wrong. We've always just referred to her "memory problems." Anyway, there was an incident at the care home yesterday which upset mum, when another resident became very agitated. The staff explained to mum that the other resident didn't mean it, she has dementia. Mum wrote the word down as it isn't one she has heard before.
Anyway, I was sitting with mum and she asked me "do I have dementia?" I didn't know what to say, but she had asked a straight question so I said that yes, she has dementia but it doesn't mean that she gets agitated like the other lady did, she just gets forgetful and a bit anxious, especially in the evenings. Mum seemed ok with this - and to be honest she's probably forgotten the conversation by now.
What should I have said? I don't want to upset her - I think it's the old arguement that if it was me I'd want to be told but I don't want to tell mum and upset her.
Anyway, I was sitting with mum and she asked me "do I have dementia?" I didn't know what to say, but she had asked a straight question so I said that yes, she has dementia but it doesn't mean that she gets agitated like the other lady did, she just gets forgetful and a bit anxious, especially in the evenings. Mum seemed ok with this - and to be honest she's probably forgotten the conversation by now.
What should I have said? I don't want to upset her - I think it's the old arguement that if it was me I'd want to be told but I don't want to tell mum and upset her.