Just to update the situation : my husband has now been five weeks in an assessment unit in hospital having his drugs monitored as he had become agitated and aggressive with me at home. The hospital now say that he is ready for discharge.
The problem is that he has become more agitated over the last three days and they are still tapering his drugs. Today he will come off Diazepam. It will obviously take time to see how he will now respond.
I attended a continuing care assessment meeting today and the nurse in charge decided he wanted to abort the meeting as it was too early to know what the situation is with my husband. I agree with this and I think that the next meeting about this will be in one or two weeks time.
I told this nurse about the care home I would like my husband to go into and all he could say was that it was expensive and that my husband might not need nursing care despite the consultant saying that he did. Our social worker thought that it would be risky for my husband to go into a residential care home as it might mean him having to be moved again when they found that they couldn't cope with him. But the independent nurse was adamant that residential homes could cope with challenging behaviour.
I feel that this is all about funding. If we aren't elligible for continuing care then we will be self-funding and I think he was objecting to my care home choice on the basis of the LA having to pick up the cost once my husband's savings reach the threshold. Also he is worried about having to pay for the nursing side of my husband's care.
I'm not sure how I stand regarding the care home. Can this still be an option? Also, when I phoned round a few residential care homes in the area and told them about my husband, they said that they wouldn't be able to take him and that he would need nursing care.
I am going to phone the social worker to try to find out how we stand and I think that it might be a good idea to ask to see the consultant again.
I would be grateful for your views and also any advice on how I can obtain the best results for my husband.
The problem is that he has become more agitated over the last three days and they are still tapering his drugs. Today he will come off Diazepam. It will obviously take time to see how he will now respond.
I attended a continuing care assessment meeting today and the nurse in charge decided he wanted to abort the meeting as it was too early to know what the situation is with my husband. I agree with this and I think that the next meeting about this will be in one or two weeks time.
I told this nurse about the care home I would like my husband to go into and all he could say was that it was expensive and that my husband might not need nursing care despite the consultant saying that he did. Our social worker thought that it would be risky for my husband to go into a residential care home as it might mean him having to be moved again when they found that they couldn't cope with him. But the independent nurse was adamant that residential homes could cope with challenging behaviour.
I feel that this is all about funding. If we aren't elligible for continuing care then we will be self-funding and I think he was objecting to my care home choice on the basis of the LA having to pick up the cost once my husband's savings reach the threshold. Also he is worried about having to pay for the nursing side of my husband's care.
I'm not sure how I stand regarding the care home. Can this still be an option? Also, when I phoned round a few residential care homes in the area and told them about my husband, they said that they wouldn't be able to take him and that he would need nursing care.
I am going to phone the social worker to try to find out how we stand and I think that it might be a good idea to ask to see the consultant again.
I would be grateful for your views and also any advice on how I can obtain the best results for my husband.