I've looked after Mum every day for the past seven years but in the last two weeks, I have come to the end of the line. It's been 24 hour care, napping on her sofa, during which she gets up 4/5 times a night. If I try to go home, even for just half an hour to eat my dinner cooked by my brilliant husband or have a shower, she has a panic attack.
I've secured a place in a residential care home from next Wednesday. I've done this behind her back and hated every minute of it but I am so emotionally and physically wrung out that it has to happen. The thing is, I don't know how to get her there. My husband suggested taking her out for a drive and just turning up there without telling her, but I don't think I can live with myself afterwards. If I tell her upfront, I risk her refusing to get in the car. I'm in turmoil.
How have others dealt with this?
I've secured a place in a residential care home from next Wednesday. I've done this behind her back and hated every minute of it but I am so emotionally and physically wrung out that it has to happen. The thing is, I don't know how to get her there. My husband suggested taking her out for a drive and just turning up there without telling her, but I don't think I can live with myself afterwards. If I tell her upfront, I risk her refusing to get in the car. I'm in turmoil.
How have others dealt with this?