we have been collecting dad from the care home and taking him 2 mums, who's disabled, just for the day for a few days, so far he's quiet and relaxed and mums been coping while we have left him with her, he seems to know he's home and has a cosy couple of hours sleep and spends time with his beloved old
sheepdog, monty. Aroung 6.30 he starts to get restless and one of the family takes him back to the home for the night.
This isn't everyday, just some days as mum couldn't cope daily, but the problem is taking him back, he thinks were off out for a drink, going to work, off to australia,.....i try to be honest and tell him he has to go back to the home and some nights he remembers it and some nights he has no idea where we are....the other night i had to smile because straight after i signed the visitors book he picked up the pen and signed it too,
with his name and my mums address, he's very sweet like a child when he's in a good mood. The nights he'll say 'we're not back at this f...... b...... stinking place are we its harder to leave.
The thing is the home says after his day out he really won't settle,and plays up all night washing his hair all the time, and saying his daughters collecting him, and now my mums suggested we don't bring him out so he will settle in the home,
but he lives to come to mums. The doctors seeing him tomorrow to review his medication but i thought he was ok even though he talks gibberish all the time. Does anyone think its wrong to keep bringing him home, is it upsetting him more, would he be better of
forgetting home completely. I don't think so.....mum says when he's calm at home he's fine in the day, he just dosen't sleep at nights so has 2 go back cos mum can't cope then, sry to ramble,
anyone have any views on this or any experience, it would be most helpful, thanks
suzie
sheepdog, monty. Aroung 6.30 he starts to get restless and one of the family takes him back to the home for the night.
This isn't everyday, just some days as mum couldn't cope daily, but the problem is taking him back, he thinks were off out for a drink, going to work, off to australia,.....i try to be honest and tell him he has to go back to the home and some nights he remembers it and some nights he has no idea where we are....the other night i had to smile because straight after i signed the visitors book he picked up the pen and signed it too,
with his name and my mums address, he's very sweet like a child when he's in a good mood. The nights he'll say 'we're not back at this f...... b...... stinking place are we its harder to leave.
The thing is the home says after his day out he really won't settle,and plays up all night washing his hair all the time, and saying his daughters collecting him, and now my mums suggested we don't bring him out so he will settle in the home,
but he lives to come to mums. The doctors seeing him tomorrow to review his medication but i thought he was ok even though he talks gibberish all the time. Does anyone think its wrong to keep bringing him home, is it upsetting him more, would he be better of
forgetting home completely. I don't think so.....mum says when he's calm at home he's fine in the day, he just dosen't sleep at nights so has 2 go back cos mum can't cope then, sry to ramble,
anyone have any views on this or any experience, it would be most helpful, thanks
suzie