I haven't been on here for a while. When mum was first diagnosed with Alzheimers I got a lot of good advice and support from you all but have just been quietly getting on with it until now.
My darling husband of 40 years has been diagnosed with a large oesophageal tumour which they are sure is cancer and I'm so frightened of whats to come and I don't think I can cope with mum as well , I know she can't help it but she's so demanding and physically draining and I'm an only child so its all on me .
I know there are lots of people with much worse things going on but if anyone has any thought on how I can get some help with mum to try to minimise my input. Social services are going to provide carers to heat her meals up but is there anyone who would shop. Also she has glaucoma and cataracts ,but manages in sheltered housing , and twice a day has to put her eyedrops in which I direct her to do over the phone but when Dannys needs become greater I need someone to take that over would that be something her Doctors could sort out I haven't been able to get hold of anyone at the surgery.
I feel all over the place at the moment so hope this post makes sense of a sort.
We are still waiting for a scan for Danny though the dr wasn't optimistic and he's now getting pain in shoulder and back which i'm scared suggests it may have spread.
I'm really trying to be strong for Danny but today I feel so low and I have to bounce back so if anyone can advice I'd be so grateful.
Jeanie
My darling husband of 40 years has been diagnosed with a large oesophageal tumour which they are sure is cancer and I'm so frightened of whats to come and I don't think I can cope with mum as well , I know she can't help it but she's so demanding and physically draining and I'm an only child so its all on me .
I know there are lots of people with much worse things going on but if anyone has any thought on how I can get some help with mum to try to minimise my input. Social services are going to provide carers to heat her meals up but is there anyone who would shop. Also she has glaucoma and cataracts ,but manages in sheltered housing , and twice a day has to put her eyedrops in which I direct her to do over the phone but when Dannys needs become greater I need someone to take that over would that be something her Doctors could sort out I haven't been able to get hold of anyone at the surgery.
I feel all over the place at the moment so hope this post makes sense of a sort.
We are still waiting for a scan for Danny though the dr wasn't optimistic and he's now getting pain in shoulder and back which i'm scared suggests it may have spread.
I'm really trying to be strong for Danny but today I feel so low and I have to bounce back so if anyone can advice I'd be so grateful.
Jeanie