attacked in the nursing home

grobertson62

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Mar 7, 2011
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Its 51 weeks today since dad had to move to a nursing home. Not that i'm counting
So far its been trouble free until a few months ago.one of the residents hit him with a walking stic
I let it go then as the other party was getting meds reviewed.then tonight he launched qn unprovoked attack on dad & shoved him.

I now want to lodge a complaint.......so what happens next.wgat shouod i espect.any ideas
 

chucky

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Feb 17, 2011
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My dad was attacked in his home by another resident, and it transpired this man had done it to a few others. I spoke to the manager and asked for him to be removed and they told me they'd been trying but couldnt find anywhere else for him to go and his family wouldnt take him back. He was also attacked and abused by A MEMBER OF STAFF over a 3 month period, witnessed by co-workers, one of whom reported it eventually. There was an investigation which took 5 weeks and the outcome was that she was found guilty . However, she was deemed to be fit to nurse after retraining, and it was said the incidents were more malpractice than malice so she kept her job! Why does being pushed under water by the shoulders and being told you are a (religious bigotted comment) not constitute malice i dont know. The system let us down badly with their enquiry. The "lady" in question was moved off her unit to another part of the building but she was and still is there. I didnt feel justice had been done for my dad, so in answer to your question, i honestly dont know what to advise you. All i would say, in hindsight i should have pressed more for charges to be brought against . Not sure though if it is/was possible to do the same about another resident. I told my dad if someone hit him in future hit them back as hard as you can. I also managed to have "a word" with his attacker one night after visiting and assured her that if she did it again she'd have more than the authoities to worry about. I was sure i'd get in trouble but i never heard it mentioned again. Its soul destroying knowing you have to leave your loved one in a place where you fear for their safety. I would have strong words with the CH manager and let them know you want this sorted out. I am like a lion where my dad is concerned and i'd fight to the death to protect him. Thankfully theres not been another incident, to my knowledge.
 

shauna

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Hi Gill
Im so sorry to hear about the attack on your poor dad you must be so upset.I think you should speak to the manager and demand something be done immediately as this person is a danger to others. I would keep a record of all theese incidents and ask to see CH report book to see if they have logged theese complaints. I do hope your dad is ok and that you get all this sorted very quickly for both your sakes.
Ive often thought about you in the last few months and wondered how you and your dad are doing . I will always remember the support you gave me and your kind words during my journey through dementia with my mum. You are in my thoughts .

Shauna
 

SWMBO1950

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very sorry to hear what has happened to your Dad. Please do as others have suggest and complain. He (and others) should be safe after all that is why they are in Care homes.

Best Wishes.x
 
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Witzend

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There was a 'new' man in my mother's CH who could be very aggressive - throwing chairs about, shouting and sweeping all his food and drink off the table in a furious temper. He was frightening the other residents and although I never saw him hit or shove anyone I wouldn't mind betting he did. I do feel for staff in these circs. since it must be very difficult - particularly when someone is still very physically fit, as he was - unless they use chemical coshes, which seem to be so often frowned upon.

The staff at my mother's home are very good - it's a specialist dementia - but I was fully expecting him to be moved somewhere else. After only about 2 months he had apparently gone and I asked where to - only to be told that he'd died of an unexpected heart attack.

I used to feel so sorry for his wife - she was there every single time I went to see my mother, doing her best to soothe him - and all I could think was what a dreadful time she must have had, trying to cope with him at home, probably for ages.
 

grobertson62

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dads attack

Well I complained in writing.The man who attacked dad was taken upstairs (the home is on 2 floors) the next day.but today he is back
Waiting now for safe guarding team to do risk assessment.
they did ask if we wanted the police called in.
Can you imagine the questioning?
what happened?
well I was walking. Past the fish pond with my camel back to the brothel. You get my drift......
the brothel by the way is cos the carers are wanting to remove his clothes and get him into bed!

Oh well at least am still able to smile

Thanks for the replies

Hope you are ok Shauna....



Gill
 

chucky

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Gill, i used to work in a brothel and i dont remember him, but the camel well...................
 

Onlyme

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Mum has a room opposite your bothel. She tells me she can see a 'knocking shop' from her window. :eek: Then again it has probably had trees planted around it since the Queen came for tea last week.
 
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Ephraim

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Hi, I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your Dad. This would worry me greatly.

Having said that, I have read many posts on this site and have not came across many references to psychosis. I know that as a result of vascular damage, particularly to the frontal part of the brain, the behaviour of people can change greatly, sometimes making the sufferer so angry or frustrated that they will be aggressive and may strike out. This may be at other individuals or even reflections which they are intimidated by.
Perhaps this is what has happened to the man who struck out at your Dad.
I am in no way justifying what happened to your poor Dad but merely trying to raise awareness of such aggressive behaviour associated with vascular deterioration. There are drugs which can counteract these behaviours. Anti-psychotics can help but may carry their own risks or side effects.
For some time my Dad was so nasty and aggressive until properly diagnosed with psychosis. He is now a much more peaceful person on his new tablets.
Thankfully the only person he attacked was me!

Tell the manager of the care home your Dad stays at, that unless the other patient is reassessed and your Dad's safety from attack guaranteed, that you will remove him to a safe environment at their expense. Who knows how many other people the attacker has troubled. You need to protect your Dad and everyone else there. Go to the top and demand some action!

Ephraim
 

grobertson62

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Mar 7, 2011
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Mum has a room opposite your bothel. She tells me she can see a 'knocking shop' from her window. :eek: Then again it has probably had trees planted around it since the Queen came for tea last week.

The Queen gets about as she has been to dads CH in the last year too!

Good job we can still smile/ laugh:D
 

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