I have watched the relationship with my siblings fall apart since mom's diagnosis 4yrs ago. Living in the UK and my mom being abroad has not helped although I travel every year to africa to visit her and my seriously dad. One of the siblings who live over there stopped communicating with all of us and we do not have a clue why. We all contribute financialy to their care, carer's salary and expensive medicines. My sister has broken silence only now using e-mails to communicate and instruct the carers not to update us on mom's health and at times disconnecting the house phone so that we have no access. She has told us the parents have to be rotated every 6 or 12months to be looked after by their children. This means that they have to be brought to England. When we protested about this plan, we were remanded that we are not from here anyway, we belong down there in africa. My father is disabled from stroke, mom is even confused in her house where she has lived for over 10yrs. How can they manage the weather, the long 11hr flight, immigration control, private care if they become ill here, house with stairs? I am so horrified but I had to tell that I will bring them over to prove the point. She is settling old scores and does not care what it will mean for the parents. Parents are very happy over there and have 3carers taking care of them in a very nice big house.She only visits once a week and spends few days. I am grateful for the job she has done and have always thanked her. We have been told not to thank her but rotate the parents. I think she beleives that we have not contributed as much as she wants, but she has never complained before. She now says to us' I pay the helpers and I control them and instruct them not to talk or share information with people from London'. When I have visited mom, I have to stay in a hotel near the house because she made it clear few yrs ago that since she bought the house for the parents, she decides who comes there and from the last treatment I am not welcomed. This experience has been so humiliating for the rest of the siblings. I have to bring at least mom here so that I can spend 6months caring for her. I feel guilty everyday because I am not with her and other siblings even the one in africa can't visit. Every day I contact her house, I go through this nonsese where I cannot ask what is going on when mom is distresed beause the cares are scared they might loose thei jobs if they spoke to me. I am sorry I have to have a moan, I miss mom and very angry with this illness.