Please be patient with this gripe/question. I am a 47 year old male and an only child. My father died on 23.12.2003 and my mother has been in a nursing home with Alzheimer's for 7 years. My father left their home to my mother when he died and I have now obtained Court of Protection to handle my mother's affairs since her doctor has stated that she is not capable of doing so. The house is currently on the market, but I have been informed that the whole of the proceeds will go to the local authority that owns the nursing home and that they will take out what they feel is necessary to pay for my mother's fees.
My argument is this (and PLEASE do not think that I am being mercenary or just a money-grabber) - my mother is 72 and her life is basically getting up in the morning, being dressed by someone, being fed by someone, being taken to the toilet by someone, etc, etc, etc. She will never leave the Home to enjoy any sort of life outside ever again; she doesn't know who I am, what day it is or where she is. I pray that she lives until she's 90 or older, because I love her to death, but why should the authorities sit on quite a substantial amount of money when my wife and I could use it to our benefit and ultimately to the benefit of our kids.
AS I SAID EARLIER, I HOPE THIS DOESN'T COME ACROSS AS MERCENARY, I JUST CAN'T GET OVER THE FUTILITY OF THEM HAVING THIS MONEY, WHEN, IN 20 YEARS TIME, I WILL PROBABLY BE IN A HOME MYSELF AND THE WHOLE CHAIN OF EVENTS WILL START AGAIN FOR OUR KIDS.
ANY THOUGHTS, IDEAS, INFORMATION, FEEDBACK ANYBODY?
My argument is this (and PLEASE do not think that I am being mercenary or just a money-grabber) - my mother is 72 and her life is basically getting up in the morning, being dressed by someone, being fed by someone, being taken to the toilet by someone, etc, etc, etc. She will never leave the Home to enjoy any sort of life outside ever again; she doesn't know who I am, what day it is or where she is. I pray that she lives until she's 90 or older, because I love her to death, but why should the authorities sit on quite a substantial amount of money when my wife and I could use it to our benefit and ultimately to the benefit of our kids.
AS I SAID EARLIER, I HOPE THIS DOESN'T COME ACROSS AS MERCENARY, I JUST CAN'T GET OVER THE FUTILITY OF THEM HAVING THIS MONEY, WHEN, IN 20 YEARS TIME, I WILL PROBABLY BE IN A HOME MYSELF AND THE WHOLE CHAIN OF EVENTS WILL START AGAIN FOR OUR KIDS.
ANY THOUGHTS, IDEAS, INFORMATION, FEEDBACK ANYBODY?