My aunt is 72 and has Vascular Dementia, Alzheimer’s and also within her brain a calcified meningioma. Last October SS admitted her into emergency care at and carried out assessments. It was decided that she needed residential care. The care home which she was in was terrible and she was not happy to be there. We found a superb home and after weeks of fighting with the LA it was agreed that she could move in.
Has been there six weeks and I am wondering if I have made the right decision. She will not leave her bedroom as she is convinced that there are people who will kill her, she has hallucinations all the time, will not eat and is clearly very distressed and frightened. Care staff has told me that she has said she would rather be dead and wants to kill herself. She has had two occurrences of UTI in the last weeks and it back on antibiotics. Her only other medication is for high blood pressure,
Social worker did 6 weeks review yesterday and feels that is could distress her more if we moved her to another home. This home is very large and modern with super staff and facilities but as she lived alone for 40 years I am wondering if it is too much for her and somewhere smaller would be better. Although after looking initially this one stood out as been one of the best.
As I said the SW and the care home and want to wait a couple of months to see how things go. My husband suggests the same. All I want to do is find a place for her to be happy and content. I feel so guilty and feel that I chose the home because I liked it (although my aunt did spend a day there before been placed and said she liked it) and maybe I should have been thinking more about how she would feel living there.
What would be the worst that could happen if I wait and see how things go, or do I start looking for a more suitable place and who’s to say that this would suit more when it could make things worse. God this is hell.
In the space of a few months she has gone from a lady with dementia but still had a sense of humour and was happy to a sad, frightened, angry lady.
Has been there six weeks and I am wondering if I have made the right decision. She will not leave her bedroom as she is convinced that there are people who will kill her, she has hallucinations all the time, will not eat and is clearly very distressed and frightened. Care staff has told me that she has said she would rather be dead and wants to kill herself. She has had two occurrences of UTI in the last weeks and it back on antibiotics. Her only other medication is for high blood pressure,
Social worker did 6 weeks review yesterday and feels that is could distress her more if we moved her to another home. This home is very large and modern with super staff and facilities but as she lived alone for 40 years I am wondering if it is too much for her and somewhere smaller would be better. Although after looking initially this one stood out as been one of the best.
As I said the SW and the care home and want to wait a couple of months to see how things go. My husband suggests the same. All I want to do is find a place for her to be happy and content. I feel so guilty and feel that I chose the home because I liked it (although my aunt did spend a day there before been placed and said she liked it) and maybe I should have been thinking more about how she would feel living there.
What would be the worst that could happen if I wait and see how things go, or do I start looking for a more suitable place and who’s to say that this would suit more when it could make things worse. God this is hell.
In the space of a few months she has gone from a lady with dementia but still had a sense of humour and was happy to a sad, frightened, angry lady.