Hi, sorry I havent posted, but things have been a bit manic here the last couple of days, particuarly as you have been so supportive to me.
It is hard to believe that over 4 weeks ago we had no outside help and I hadnt even considered full time care for mum. Now she is happily settled in a Care Home and we have all had to admit she looks happier and healthier there. I guess it was just the right time, and it sounds like it is the right time for your mum as well. I cannot tell you how it feels to know that there is someone else worrying for her and she is living in an environment so better suited to her needs. It is actually little things, that because it has big wide corridors she is walking more and her mobility has definitely improved. Plus everywhere is constantly warm.
I think the fact that your dad is there, they have vacancies and she appears to be going through such a massive downturn at the moment, that maybe it is time and everything is just falling into place. As more than one person advised me, dont let Christmas be a deciding factor.
As you know with your dad, putting your mum into Care doesnt mean you are stop caring, you just take on a different roll.
I really really hope things work out for you all.
Sue xx