Bad weekend with my mum. Social services visited on Friday and found her with all the gas rings on and the grill alight!!!!
they telphoned to tell me that we must get the cooker disconnected immediately. My brother was supposed to have arranged that for the previous wednesday but didn't!!!!told my brother who has arranged it for today so I went on Saturday and took off all the knobs so she couldn't switch them on. She was not great on Sat am but happy. Got a phone call on Saturday evening telling me her kettle wasn't working, Me and my husband braved the football traffic at 5..00pm to pop into Argos for a cheap kettle and took it to her. The base that plugs into the socket was missing. "where have you put it?" "I haven't moved it" "you must have moved it, maybe you forgot" "I haven't somebody else must have done it" on searching the house I found it upstairs in her bedroom. "I found it, do you know where it was?" "no, unless it was in my bedroom" plugged it back in. Next the microwave that we bought a week ago, as she lost the glass dish for the other on, was missing the glass dish again which we found near the kettle!! but inside the microwave was a piece of bacon on top of the thing that rotates the dish and fat from what looked like lots of bacon all over the bottom. I mentioned that she mustn't take the glass dish out, she told me she never touched it, why don't I just leave her alone etc etc, I admit I lost the plot and left hubby to sort things out and went to sit in the other room. We left later made my peace and went home.
Today I telephoned to see how she as I always do. She said she was surprised that nobody was there, she was all on her own!! "Well we are at our homes, we haven't been there" Well how do I get back to my other house" "you don't need to you're staying there" "Well why didn't anyone tell me" "We did tell you, we tell you everyday" She hung up the phone on me 5 - 6 times and I kept phoning back to calm her down but I seemed to make things worse. Was very agitated and angry with me talking about her other house, my dad, other things that just didn't make any sense and one worrying thing when I called back one time she answered and said "Well if you want a suicide on your hands your going about it the right way!!" I just don't know what to do any more, what to say or anything, I feel useless, and the wrong person to handle this. We have always been so close and now I just make her angry when all I'm trying to do is help her.
Sorry for the long post. She's going for a CT scan today so maybe we'll get a diagnosis. BTW should she have started her medication yet, it is 6 weeks since she was assessed or are they waiting for the scan results?
they telphoned to tell me that we must get the cooker disconnected immediately. My brother was supposed to have arranged that for the previous wednesday but didn't!!!!told my brother who has arranged it for today so I went on Saturday and took off all the knobs so she couldn't switch them on. She was not great on Sat am but happy. Got a phone call on Saturday evening telling me her kettle wasn't working, Me and my husband braved the football traffic at 5..00pm to pop into Argos for a cheap kettle and took it to her. The base that plugs into the socket was missing. "where have you put it?" "I haven't moved it" "you must have moved it, maybe you forgot" "I haven't somebody else must have done it" on searching the house I found it upstairs in her bedroom. "I found it, do you know where it was?" "no, unless it was in my bedroom" plugged it back in. Next the microwave that we bought a week ago, as she lost the glass dish for the other on, was missing the glass dish again which we found near the kettle!! but inside the microwave was a piece of bacon on top of the thing that rotates the dish and fat from what looked like lots of bacon all over the bottom. I mentioned that she mustn't take the glass dish out, she told me she never touched it, why don't I just leave her alone etc etc, I admit I lost the plot and left hubby to sort things out and went to sit in the other room. We left later made my peace and went home.Today I telephoned to see how she as I always do. She said she was surprised that nobody was there, she was all on her own!! "Well we are at our homes, we haven't been there" Well how do I get back to my other house" "you don't need to you're staying there" "Well why didn't anyone tell me" "We did tell you, we tell you everyday" She hung up the phone on me 5 - 6 times and I kept phoning back to calm her down but I seemed to make things worse. Was very agitated and angry with me talking about her other house, my dad, other things that just didn't make any sense and one worrying thing when I called back one time she answered and said "Well if you want a suicide on your hands your going about it the right way!!" I just don't know what to do any more, what to say or anything, I feel useless, and the wrong person to handle this. We have always been so close and now I just make her angry when all I'm trying to do is help her.
Sorry for the long post. She's going for a CT scan today so maybe we'll get a diagnosis. BTW should she have started her medication yet, it is 6 weeks since she was assessed or are they waiting for the scan results?
