I apologise, as I am sure this will have been discussed before but I would appreciate your advice and experiences.
Mum has Alzheimer's and, due to this, her circle of friends has diminished - I suspect mainly because
1.she hasn't been able to process the skill to phone friends and organise to meet up
2.she's come across as rude when she does see them
3.is no longer able to follow a conversation
4. the friends haven't realised she is ill and actually needs their support and company - I don't blame them one bit - I get the feeling Mum has inadvertedly pushed them away.
It's now come to sorting out christmas card writing - gradually over the years Mum has cut down her sending list but with hindsight I feel this had something to do with her condition. Likewise, numbers received has fallen dramatically.
It is likely the card writing won't actually happen or will only be sent to a selected few (with the help of a friend that pops in sometimes).
I just know that if Mum's friends were told of her illness, they would send her cards which would just give such alot of pleasure - she would line them all up and it would be a constant reminder of the people who are thinking of her.
If I was to send christmas cards on behalf of my Mum with a little insert explaining that she is ill - is this a breach of trust - Mum is in complete denial of her illness but is well enough to enjoy opening cards?
What do I do?
Mum has Alzheimer's and, due to this, her circle of friends has diminished - I suspect mainly because
1.she hasn't been able to process the skill to phone friends and organise to meet up
2.she's come across as rude when she does see them
3.is no longer able to follow a conversation
4. the friends haven't realised she is ill and actually needs their support and company - I don't blame them one bit - I get the feeling Mum has inadvertedly pushed them away.
It's now come to sorting out christmas card writing - gradually over the years Mum has cut down her sending list but with hindsight I feel this had something to do with her condition. Likewise, numbers received has fallen dramatically.
It is likely the card writing won't actually happen or will only be sent to a selected few (with the help of a friend that pops in sometimes).
I just know that if Mum's friends were told of her illness, they would send her cards which would just give such alot of pleasure - she would line them all up and it would be a constant reminder of the people who are thinking of her.
If I was to send christmas cards on behalf of my Mum with a little insert explaining that she is ill - is this a breach of trust - Mum is in complete denial of her illness but is well enough to enjoy opening cards?
What do I do?