Hi all
I wonder if anyone can help....within the family we have 80 year old Gran of my nephew who forgets where she is, cannot hold conversations ----so much so that granpa does the talking for her...she is placing items in unusual places....such as cooking then putting the pots/pans and food in the bin and not remembering she has done it.....her mood swings are horrific....once a placid lady is now like a whirlpool and the venom out of her mouth is so out of character.......this is not an overnight occurence this has been going on for about 5 years and no one wants to tackle it head on in fear of upsetting their Gran.....
They did manage to get Granpa to take Gran to doctors in connection with something else ....They pre warned the doctor of our concerns re Grans memory etc....at end of consultaion Doctor tackled the issue.....Gran brushed over it as not being very well and left the surgery.....Granpa followed her out and that has been that.
It is now reaching crisis point and Granpa is near breaking...Nephew found him sitting in his car crying because Grandma had been so verbally abusive that he could not take anymore.....they are becoming socially isolated because Grandpa takes Grandma shopping at night in the 24 hr stores.....this is a change of habit and I fear it is in the hope that they do not meet people they know who would quite clearly spot that there is an issue with communication with Grandma....such as asking the same question repeatedly.....I have spoken with the family and offered to talk to Grandma about concerns and see if I can get her to agree to help......is this the best direction.....she admits to absolutely no insight hence why the family have burried their heads in sand...
I hope this all makes sense and any advice or help would be of great help to me and my loved ones
I wonder if anyone can help....within the family we have 80 year old Gran of my nephew who forgets where she is, cannot hold conversations ----so much so that granpa does the talking for her...she is placing items in unusual places....such as cooking then putting the pots/pans and food in the bin and not remembering she has done it.....her mood swings are horrific....once a placid lady is now like a whirlpool and the venom out of her mouth is so out of character.......this is not an overnight occurence this has been going on for about 5 years and no one wants to tackle it head on in fear of upsetting their Gran.....
They did manage to get Granpa to take Gran to doctors in connection with something else ....They pre warned the doctor of our concerns re Grans memory etc....at end of consultaion Doctor tackled the issue.....Gran brushed over it as not being very well and left the surgery.....Granpa followed her out and that has been that.
It is now reaching crisis point and Granpa is near breaking...Nephew found him sitting in his car crying because Grandma had been so verbally abusive that he could not take anymore.....they are becoming socially isolated because Grandpa takes Grandma shopping at night in the 24 hr stores.....this is a change of habit and I fear it is in the hope that they do not meet people they know who would quite clearly spot that there is an issue with communication with Grandma....such as asking the same question repeatedly.....I have spoken with the family and offered to talk to Grandma about concerns and see if I can get her to agree to help......is this the best direction.....she admits to absolutely no insight hence why the family have burried their heads in sand...
I hope this all makes sense and any advice or help would be of great help to me and my loved ones