Thanks for the advice but Sue I tried the non-aggressive approach for two years and during that time my dad was means tested by SS which I accepted because nobody had told me the correct procedure. Also during this two years he had all his belongings stolen, was abused twice and given unprescribed drugs. I think that was enough to test the most even tempered person.The most important lesson is to take a non-aggressive approach and to work within the legislation. I'm not for one moment saying that I agree with the legislation, but the people applying the legislation are not the people to condemn. If they fail to apply the current guidelines correctly then they should be challenged, but rationally and in a non-confrontational manner.
Evidence is the most important weapon you can have, not the minutiae of legislation.
I don't for one minute claim to be an expert, but if I can share the benefit of our experience, I am here for anyone who cares to PM me.
You say you would be happy to share the benefit of your experience, but you then say, "if they PM you". How can newbies to this forum benefit if they have to PM you, for a start they don't know you have won. Your experience should be out on the forum for all to see and for others to benefit from, don't you agree.