Hi all, I am new to this forum so have never posted anything before, but I do need some serious advice from people who are in the know about dementia patients.
My father-in-law (who is believed to suffer with Lewis Body dementia) was earlier this year offered the opportunity to come and live with his son and me or, alternatively we would go and live with him. At the time he was fiercely independent and wanted to stay in his own home alone. He used to come to stay with us every weekend and we visited him every day to ensure he was eating properly, etc. He then suffered a very nasty fall and broke a vertibrae and ended up in hospital. He was discharged under the guidance of social services and they set up a care plan. He point blank refused any help from the carers, he wouldn't take his medication and ended up back in hospital after only 2 days of his release. The result was he was admitted to a care home. Although the home is very nice he is EXTREMELY unhappy and is often in tears and constantly begs us to let him come and live with us.
Although we would welcome him into our home, we are at work during the day and he would need a carer for the hours we are not there. We are currently researching all the options open to us and ways in which we can make this happen.
I would value anyone's opinion as to whether or not you believe taking him out of the safe environment of his care home to come and live with us is a good idea. Any help and advice you can offer would be gratefully received.
My father-in-law (who is believed to suffer with Lewis Body dementia) was earlier this year offered the opportunity to come and live with his son and me or, alternatively we would go and live with him. At the time he was fiercely independent and wanted to stay in his own home alone. He used to come to stay with us every weekend and we visited him every day to ensure he was eating properly, etc. He then suffered a very nasty fall and broke a vertibrae and ended up in hospital. He was discharged under the guidance of social services and they set up a care plan. He point blank refused any help from the carers, he wouldn't take his medication and ended up back in hospital after only 2 days of his release. The result was he was admitted to a care home. Although the home is very nice he is EXTREMELY unhappy and is often in tears and constantly begs us to let him come and live with us.
Although we would welcome him into our home, we are at work during the day and he would need a carer for the hours we are not there. We are currently researching all the options open to us and ways in which we can make this happen.
I would value anyone's opinion as to whether or not you believe taking him out of the safe environment of his care home to come and live with us is a good idea. Any help and advice you can offer would be gratefully received.