Well its been a few years - probably 5 - since I was last here and I admit I never wanted to return (no reflection on the wonderful people who I shared so much with at the time, just a need to escape the hell of dementia). But here I am again and it looks like this will be yet a different experience to the first with my Dad and then with my Aunt. Now its my Mum
Mum is 85 - that's the first significant difference. She has always been in good physical health apart from reduced mobility following a broken hip several years ago. Her mental state has deteriorated in what seems to be a matter of weeks with no apparent TIA's which were noticable with my Aunt and Dad to a lesser degree. She can no longer operate the tv remote (apart from turning the volume up to 99 - did you know it could go that high!), is struggling to process the simplest of tasks - selecting clothes, putting them on, making a cuppa, showering etc. Has had a couple of "accidents" the last couple of days - I returned from work tonight to find her naked from the waist down having got wet and having stripped off then oblivious to the need to dress again.
The good news is that she lives with us in her own annexe so we are able to monitor and help as needed. I work but my husband is great with making sure she eats, drinks and is safe though is understandably a bit bothered by the sudden decline and the chance he could walk in on her in a state of undress (hes coped with the "superman" syndrome of her wearing her knickers over her trousers so far but not sure how he'll cope with the next step).
I spoke to her doctor a few weeks ago as she has been undergoing tests for what now appears to be a cyst on her pancreas and he didn't want to consider the memory issues at the time as he wanted to deal with the lump first. I have one hope that I am clinging to at the moment and that is that as she is also waiting for further investigations on her bladder (there was pain and bleeding a few weeks ago) that this or the cyst may be having an effect - I recall water infections could cause problems with apparent mental issues? We have to wait till a week on Monday for the next hospital visit to check her bladder.
So what to do now? Wait or drag her to the docs this week (she hates the place and doesn't like taking tablets, always preferred self help to intervention and hasn't done badly to get to 85 relatively fit).
I desperately want to put it off and maybe just bury my head in the sand at least for the next 12 days, but something tells me I won't be able to.
Can anyone offer any experience of related health issues and what effect they had?
Mum is 85 - that's the first significant difference. She has always been in good physical health apart from reduced mobility following a broken hip several years ago. Her mental state has deteriorated in what seems to be a matter of weeks with no apparent TIA's which were noticable with my Aunt and Dad to a lesser degree. She can no longer operate the tv remote (apart from turning the volume up to 99 - did you know it could go that high!), is struggling to process the simplest of tasks - selecting clothes, putting them on, making a cuppa, showering etc. Has had a couple of "accidents" the last couple of days - I returned from work tonight to find her naked from the waist down having got wet and having stripped off then oblivious to the need to dress again.
The good news is that she lives with us in her own annexe so we are able to monitor and help as needed. I work but my husband is great with making sure she eats, drinks and is safe though is understandably a bit bothered by the sudden decline and the chance he could walk in on her in a state of undress (hes coped with the "superman" syndrome of her wearing her knickers over her trousers so far but not sure how he'll cope with the next step).
I spoke to her doctor a few weeks ago as she has been undergoing tests for what now appears to be a cyst on her pancreas and he didn't want to consider the memory issues at the time as he wanted to deal with the lump first. I have one hope that I am clinging to at the moment and that is that as she is also waiting for further investigations on her bladder (there was pain and bleeding a few weeks ago) that this or the cyst may be having an effect - I recall water infections could cause problems with apparent mental issues? We have to wait till a week on Monday for the next hospital visit to check her bladder.
So what to do now? Wait or drag her to the docs this week (she hates the place and doesn't like taking tablets, always preferred self help to intervention and hasn't done badly to get to 85 relatively fit).
I desperately want to put it off and maybe just bury my head in the sand at least for the next 12 days, but something tells me I won't be able to.
Can anyone offer any experience of related health issues and what effect they had?