Hi all,
I had birthday greetings from talking point today which was lovely. Thank You TP!
Its just over a year since Dad died and It has been a tough year. I buried myself in work for most of the year as I was just too traumatised by the sadness and grief of living through Dad's last years - with him so lost and vulnerable - and I unable to do much about it. But lately , one year on, I am able to deal with my loss a bit better. Dad had a good and long life, so my grief for his passing, in itself, would have been soothed by the knowledge and appreciation of that long and good life. But the harrowing way in which his mind and his personality were affected by dementia in his latter years was by far more difficult to come to terms with. Living through his last years with him nearly ripped my heart out.
The church had a mass in the cemetary in June for all those who died in the past year and when it came to Communion I couldnt hold the tears back - they flowed and flowed - and my grief found an outlet. I am still traumatised by those last years and how lost and vulnerable he was - and how often I misread those signs and did the wrong thing - not realising how lost and insecure he was. But despite that he would tell me - when he could - that I was very good - and I cling to that.
TP has was such a support during those years and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for the kindness and advice and companionship you gave me through what were the most difficult years of my life. I would have been lost without you. Thank you all so much.
with great love
Helen
I had birthday greetings from talking point today which was lovely. Thank You TP!
Its just over a year since Dad died and It has been a tough year. I buried myself in work for most of the year as I was just too traumatised by the sadness and grief of living through Dad's last years - with him so lost and vulnerable - and I unable to do much about it. But lately , one year on, I am able to deal with my loss a bit better. Dad had a good and long life, so my grief for his passing, in itself, would have been soothed by the knowledge and appreciation of that long and good life. But the harrowing way in which his mind and his personality were affected by dementia in his latter years was by far more difficult to come to terms with. Living through his last years with him nearly ripped my heart out.
The church had a mass in the cemetary in June for all those who died in the past year and when it came to Communion I couldnt hold the tears back - they flowed and flowed - and my grief found an outlet. I am still traumatised by those last years and how lost and vulnerable he was - and how often I misread those signs and did the wrong thing - not realising how lost and insecure he was. But despite that he would tell me - when he could - that I was very good - and I cling to that.
TP has was such a support during those years and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for the kindness and advice and companionship you gave me through what were the most difficult years of my life. I would have been lost without you. Thank you all so much.
with great love
Helen