I went to see Mum yesterday, and to be honest it very upsetting. She looked awful, and kept scratching her head. The staff said they were concerned as he resists personal care, not agressively but by going stiff, and curling up. She has long hair, it waas one of the effects of the AZ before it was usually quirte short but she developed a dislike of anyone touching it. Anyway yesterday they asked me if I would mind if she had it cut. This is because at night she curls inot a feotal position and as she draws herself down the bed she often ends up with her head and face lying in urine. Of course they change her but they are worried that sometimes she may be laying like this for an hour or so, they round as close to hourly as they can, but of course if another client needs attention it may be a little longer before they check her again. Well I cut it for her, from about 18inches (mid back) to a collar length sort of bob. It looked really nice too! But then I noticed other things like I always used to trim her chin hairs (why do old ladies gorwn them) But she looked like a tired old walrus. I was also plannnig to go through her clothes as they have taken out her chest of drawers so that if she falls out of bed again there is room to get the hoist in. Well I found four of those horrid open down the back nighties from a hopsital, so I asked why they were there and they told me they had been using them as it is easier to attend to Mum's personal care. I can understand this by why hadn;t they asked me to get her some of her owm - not lot of dignity there. Besides whish they told me is she was a wanderer they would never think of putting her in them as they are not very dignified. I also npoticed there is no chair in her room just a commode. I have noticed she is always in one of the lounges but often looks really tired, and is dozing in a chair. But of course they are not the sort of places you can rest as such, bit like hospitals far to busy an noisy.But I've never known them take her to her room for a nap - does that happen in other homes? Then I thought other aspects of her care, and asked how she reacts to baths and hoists now - apparenlty she resists and shows some agitation at times
The choice of nursing homes locally is apalling, but I really am beginniing to tnk she needs more care than they can offer now. Who decides when it's time to move? I thiink they already feel that way but haven;t actually said it as such because they keep saying if they have anymore clients with the same level of needs as she has they will not be able to manage.
The choice of nursing homes locally is apalling, but I really am beginniing to tnk she needs more care than they can offer now. Who decides when it's time to move? I thiink they already feel that way but haven;t actually said it as such because they keep saying if they have anymore clients with the same level of needs as she has they will not be able to manage.
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