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My dad has dementia. Mum has been looking after him. She could barely manage and we help as much as she'll let us but she has fiercly resisted any intervention.
We wanted to build an extension on our house for them so that we could be close at hand. No way. We wanted to employ a carer, no way.
Anyway, things have come to a head and she's become ill with the strain. My father has gone into urgent respite.
Now she doesn't want to know about him and it's almost as if she's handed the responsibility to me. It needn't have come to this, it's so tragic. I now have two dependant parents, the last few days have been a nightmare. He's crying because he wants to come home. I can't bear the sadness.
The guilt trip is massive, I should have done more, yet I don't know what.
Is this a familiar story?
Thanks for reading this.
Zebraff
My dad has dementia. Mum has been looking after him. She could barely manage and we help as much as she'll let us but she has fiercly resisted any intervention.
We wanted to build an extension on our house for them so that we could be close at hand. No way. We wanted to employ a carer, no way.
Anyway, things have come to a head and she's become ill with the strain. My father has gone into urgent respite.
Now she doesn't want to know about him and it's almost as if she's handed the responsibility to me. It needn't have come to this, it's so tragic. I now have two dependant parents, the last few days have been a nightmare. He's crying because he wants to come home. I can't bear the sadness.
The guilt trip is massive, I should have done more, yet I don't know what.
Is this a familiar story?
Thanks for reading this.
Zebraff