Can anyone advise me? I will not go through all the previous history but basically my husband and I live 200 miles from my Dad. My brother lives near Dad and has been brilliant with keeping him going at home but works full time and has children so cannot do any more. DH and I visit for a weekend each month (I am still working) to clean the house and help keep the garden tidy. However, I cannot continue living with the stress of Dad being on his own so much. He is getting to the stage where he does not always know who we are. He refuses to go to any day centre or have anyone in to help with his personal care and keeping the house clean so just sits there day after day. He has also said that if we “put” him in a home he will die.
So, (and I also feel guilty with all the references to “invisibles” that I am not doing my share) I think the time has come for drastic action. The only thing I can think of that will be acceptable to Dad is for us to sell his and our homes (neither suitable for us all to live together) and buy a property where we can both have our own living space but still be together, plus somewhere nearby for two horses. I guess this would also involve using his and our savings. Obviously when Dad dies (he is in his 90’s) we will have to move again in order to comply with his Will that states that my brother and I should half each of the estate.
My question is – when we come to sell the property how do we work out what we are due back (our house price and savings) and what is due to Dad’s estate, especially if we have to sell at less than we paid for the property? Do we just have to divide what we sell the property for into two, half for us and half for the estate? I don’t want to be accused by the OPG of depriving Dad’s estate of assets.
Thanks
Linda
So, (and I also feel guilty with all the references to “invisibles” that I am not doing my share) I think the time has come for drastic action. The only thing I can think of that will be acceptable to Dad is for us to sell his and our homes (neither suitable for us all to live together) and buy a property where we can both have our own living space but still be together, plus somewhere nearby for two horses. I guess this would also involve using his and our savings. Obviously when Dad dies (he is in his 90’s) we will have to move again in order to comply with his Will that states that my brother and I should half each of the estate.
My question is – when we come to sell the property how do we work out what we are due back (our house price and savings) and what is due to Dad’s estate, especially if we have to sell at less than we paid for the property? Do we just have to divide what we sell the property for into two, half for us and half for the estate? I don’t want to be accused by the OPG of depriving Dad’s estate of assets.
Thanks
Linda