I wonder if anyone might be able to provide some advice.
My mum has vascular dementia and my dad is her carer. For the last 2 years he has done absolutely everything for mum and hidden the extent of her dementia from most people. Recently mum was taken into an emi NHS hospital unit and I am worried.
The nurses are lovely lovely lovely people and handled my mum's admission with real compassion and skill. My mum was extremely distressed at being left and having never been more than an inch away from my father for the last couple of years even more distressed at him leaving her behind.
We are now 12 days into her 28 day restraint order and I am worried. Today my mum seemed very 'drugged and dazed' when I visited. The nurses were busy and none of the dementia patients seemed to have anyone looking after their mental welfare. One very nice nurse told me that mum had been fine all morning and that she had been following the staff around all morning. I understand that that means that she was with someone the whole time and that this might have lessened her anxiety a little. But does that really constitute looking after my mum's mental welfare, which surely is part and parcel of dementia care (social interaction is referred to as important in Alzheimer society's information.)
I hope I am making sense. Seeing my mum registering so little around her today was really upsetting and I worry about who is interacting with her in any meaningful way when we, her family, aren't around. We visit every day,have taken up cd player and music and dvd's and photograph albums. When we are at the hospital we take her into the garden, listen to music with her, browse through magazines with her and generally try to keep her active and involved.
But when we are not there, none of this seems to happen. This is not a criticism of the nurses, who I know are very busy, but there seems to be no consideration of her 'mental' wellbeing/social wellbeing other than getting her medication right.
Thankyou for listening.
My mum has vascular dementia and my dad is her carer. For the last 2 years he has done absolutely everything for mum and hidden the extent of her dementia from most people. Recently mum was taken into an emi NHS hospital unit and I am worried.
The nurses are lovely lovely lovely people and handled my mum's admission with real compassion and skill. My mum was extremely distressed at being left and having never been more than an inch away from my father for the last couple of years even more distressed at him leaving her behind.
We are now 12 days into her 28 day restraint order and I am worried. Today my mum seemed very 'drugged and dazed' when I visited. The nurses were busy and none of the dementia patients seemed to have anyone looking after their mental welfare. One very nice nurse told me that mum had been fine all morning and that she had been following the staff around all morning. I understand that that means that she was with someone the whole time and that this might have lessened her anxiety a little. But does that really constitute looking after my mum's mental welfare, which surely is part and parcel of dementia care (social interaction is referred to as important in Alzheimer society's information.)
I hope I am making sense. Seeing my mum registering so little around her today was really upsetting and I worry about who is interacting with her in any meaningful way when we, her family, aren't around. We visit every day,have taken up cd player and music and dvd's and photograph albums. When we are at the hospital we take her into the garden, listen to music with her, browse through magazines with her and generally try to keep her active and involved.
But when we are not there, none of this seems to happen. This is not a criticism of the nurses, who I know are very busy, but there seems to be no consideration of her 'mental' wellbeing/social wellbeing other than getting her medication right.
Thankyou for listening.