Hi there,
In less than a year at a lovely care home, she now is double incontinent and has lost the ability to walk or be able to act on commands to move her feet etc .
The doctor visited the home after she had a few TIA. Just waiting for a CPN nurse to assess Mum & then it goes to panel to decide the level of care either a nursing or an EMI nursing home.
There is 3 EMI nursing homes in the area, which will take her to in her wheelchair to see if she likes them. I live abroad so can't see her every day to assess how she is, rely of the care home for info.
She has an older sister (80)who tries to go every Sat. her sister-in-law (83) gets 2 buses to visit plus her other friends.
Do I choose a local one, near her GP & excellent Social worker or go further afield to the coast (20miles away) or in grounds that they can take her out. She doesn't go anywhere now. I took her in the wheelchair in Sept before that my sister did in May, she lives in Australia.
Where will she be happy? I'll ask her, the carers said she will say anywhere.
It still matters that she will be ok.
Sometimes I feel I'm not getting all the facts or maybe I should know more what to expect.
Any suggestions are most welcome as it's so comforting to know that others are in the same position & are feeling all the heartache & pain & joy.
A problem shared is a problem halved - how true.
Regards, Sabato
In less than a year at a lovely care home, she now is double incontinent and has lost the ability to walk or be able to act on commands to move her feet etc .
The doctor visited the home after she had a few TIA. Just waiting for a CPN nurse to assess Mum & then it goes to panel to decide the level of care either a nursing or an EMI nursing home.
There is 3 EMI nursing homes in the area, which will take her to in her wheelchair to see if she likes them. I live abroad so can't see her every day to assess how she is, rely of the care home for info.
She has an older sister (80)who tries to go every Sat. her sister-in-law (83) gets 2 buses to visit plus her other friends.
Do I choose a local one, near her GP & excellent Social worker or go further afield to the coast (20miles away) or in grounds that they can take her out. She doesn't go anywhere now. I took her in the wheelchair in Sept before that my sister did in May, she lives in Australia.
Where will she be happy? I'll ask her, the carers said she will say anywhere.
It still matters that she will be ok.
Sometimes I feel I'm not getting all the facts or maybe I should know more what to expect.
Any suggestions are most welcome as it's so comforting to know that others are in the same position & are feeling all the heartache & pain & joy.
A problem shared is a problem halved - how true.
Regards, Sabato