depression, guilt and sadness- these are all things that i've been trying to stave off, but they keep on coming knocking at my door.
up to now, i've been so busy with coping with living with this illness, and now steve's been in a home for 7 weeks and has had various issues to cope with, that i think the full extent has never hit home. but now it is doing, and i'm scared. i'm so used to coping with things, and carrying on regardless, now it's like there's time to think and feel more, and it's harder to cope with than the actual illness at times.
i still well remember those days when he was at home (it's still hard to think of in the past tense), and could never go back to them. so supposedly i am better off. but this grief i'm feeling, and more to the point know steve is feeling, is so hard to bear.
i just want people who have been through this to help me know that it does pass because however hard i try and convince myself, my head just won't believe it. the only release i can imagine is when he passes, because then his suffering will have stopped and i will only have my own grief to think about. he seems to have retained some memory skills at knowing how often i've visited, and asks why he is there and not with me. but i can't explain why in full detail as it would cripple him. it's just so awful. i couldn't hold back the tears on my visit yesterday and felt terrible at giving him that to deal with.
i hope this post makes sense as i feel all jumbled up but wanted to post before i went to work so i could look forward to hopefully seeing some replies later. it's all i can do to get out today and hoped that by taking a positive step towards helping myself, would boost me.
thank you for listening.
up to now, i've been so busy with coping with living with this illness, and now steve's been in a home for 7 weeks and has had various issues to cope with, that i think the full extent has never hit home. but now it is doing, and i'm scared. i'm so used to coping with things, and carrying on regardless, now it's like there's time to think and feel more, and it's harder to cope with than the actual illness at times.
i still well remember those days when he was at home (it's still hard to think of in the past tense), and could never go back to them. so supposedly i am better off. but this grief i'm feeling, and more to the point know steve is feeling, is so hard to bear.
i just want people who have been through this to help me know that it does pass because however hard i try and convince myself, my head just won't believe it. the only release i can imagine is when he passes, because then his suffering will have stopped and i will only have my own grief to think about. he seems to have retained some memory skills at knowing how often i've visited, and asks why he is there and not with me. but i can't explain why in full detail as it would cripple him. it's just so awful. i couldn't hold back the tears on my visit yesterday and felt terrible at giving him that to deal with.
i hope this post makes sense as i feel all jumbled up but wanted to post before i went to work so i could look forward to hopefully seeing some replies later. it's all i can do to get out today and hoped that by taking a positive step towards helping myself, would boost me.
thank you for listening.