calm down. .......
Go get em, Mr Angry. x
Chucky, at least you didn't say "calm down, dear" - thank goodness!!
It's gonna be awfully difficult for Mr Angry to "Go get em" if he's not allowed to speak to them, and if they won't speak to him, let alone his Dad. And if they aren't prepared to provide him with the info he's asking for.
I sympathise with Mr Angry too, but I can also understand that it may be "the authorities" who will try to make him ill and thereby try to make sure that his health suffers so that he backs out of caring for/about his Dad.
Why do I say that? Because I have today been told that I have another 6 months to wait - yes, a full 6 months - before I am even to be allowed to believe there is a tunnel, the end of which I may one day reach and know then that there is indeed that thing we call light at the end of it.
I've been told today it's because "it is a very complex and involved situation that we are having to deal with". As if I didn't know that already!! As if it's not also a very complex and involved situation for me to have to deal with, because of my own personal involvement.
It's just a job for the authorities to deal with it all - that's what they're paid to do. I'm not. So all I can offer is my energy, on behalf of my own relative and my own family. On behalf of everyone else with dementia and in need of care too.
If I could post the location, the names of the authorities involved, believe me I would do so. But that kind of detail would be deleted before anyone got to read it. So you'll just have to trust me on that front. As will TP's moderators, the visible and the invisible ones.
Our world so often protects the guilty - rather than the innocent, after all. But we are all innocent until proven guilty, so why should the authorities worry about being named. Especially, when they can take years to deal with difficult and complex situations, all in their own 'best interests' of course. Perhaps if their names were to be published, they'd find a way to deal more swiftly and with greater competence, if only we were allowed to name them.
As we hear so often on TP, everyone's circumstances are different. It's not easy to tackle the 'authorities' - but they must often be challenged, if only to improve the world of dementia care for others. But another 6 months to wait is most likely to drive me to the edge. If I jump over that edge, the authorities will be to blame - not me. And most certainly not my own relative with dementia.
Sorry, chucky, but your post arrived on a very difficult and complex day for me, so I had to respond, from my heart and from my own personal experience. If only on behalf of all those of us who have ever needed to challenge the authorities that others have not even come by yet. Sincerely, I hope others never do need to come to challenge them.
I wish you well, Mr Angry.