Hi, i know how you feel. There are days when i want to run away and never come back. I have to say i wish i had more willpower and refuse to carry on carng, but its like we have no other choice because of the guilt we feel. I admire some people who can stand back and say no, im not doing it, i wish i had the courage to do the same. Im not doing this because i want to, and had i had the choice i would have said no its not for me. I resent every day i have to do my "duty" and yes there are days when i just have had enough and snap and get angry then i feel guilty again, its a vicious circle. You need to decide how much you can do and are willing to do then see it through. Try not to let the guilt make you do more than you want, thats where the resentment comes in. Dont get me wrong, i love my paremts to bits, i just hate caring for them because its relentless, demanding, exhausting, and not something i would ever consider doing in normal circumstances. I have scaled back the amount of help i give, i used to be there 24/7, now i only do what i want and that could mean a 1 hour visit or a half day visit, depending on what needs done. The rest i leave to carers. My mum doesnt like it and wants me there but i have put my foot down and told her no, i have a life too and im not spending it running at her beck and call. I nursed my dad through the worst parts of his dementia and it was the hardest thing ive ever had to do, im not willing to do it all over again. Should i feel guilty, probably, do i feel guilty no, ive had enough. Dont feel guilty for thinking the way you do, we all have our limits and whats good for one person isnt good for others. Find your level of commitment then stick to it. You have nothing to feel guilty about. take care x