Hi Remus
Yes both Mum and Dad have dementia and it is hard. Mum is in denial, in her mind there is nothing wrong with either of them, which makes trying to care for them a never ending trial.
When they could no longer live in their own home, I bought a park residential home/ chalet and sited it in my garden. Asked them to come to try out the new holiday home
and didn't take them back to their own house. Like you I knew I couldn't cope with them living with me 24/7.
My daughter lives next door, so the chalet is between her house and mine and she helps care for them. My cousin lives around the corner and she also does her bit. They go to daycare 3 times a week and carers have just started to come twice a day and if respite works in November, SS have said we can have rolling respite, so all in all things are not so bad at the moment
I know I am fortunate in having the space to be able to have the chalet in the garden and in having family support and help, many others are not so lucky.
On the other hand, my MIL also has AD and lives on her own in Barrow Cumbria, she is rapidly getting to the stage where she can't be left in her own home. My husband goes to live with her 4 days per week, at the moment, but decisions will have to be made soon and we have no space for another chalet.
Alfjess