My wife (57) is now at quite an advanced stage. Double incontinence, does not talk, no sense of her surroundings, not very mobile, will not drink or eat properly etc. However she is not generally aggressive or too difficult to manage from a behavioural perspective. The disease is progressing quite rapidly (5 years since the first real symptoms).
Originally I thought that I would be able to look after my wife at home but, as the realities hit, and with no family close by, I realised that long term care was inevitable at some point. I could battle on at home until the end but I think I would be doing this for myself rather than obtaining the best possible care for my wife.
It seems like the disease is always moving faster than I expect so I decided to look at care homes in advance. Most were dreadful but then I found a small home that seems ideal. The problem is that, being small, places come up very infrequently. However, they have just added two new rooms and I have to take a decision as to whether to try and get one of these rooms. I would have liked to consider this step in six months time or so but I am worried about missing this opportunity.
It is the most difficult decision that I have ever had to take. I really do not know how I will cope with the trauma of moving my lovely wife out of our home but I think that I must do it. I dread the thought of life after this. How does one adjust after so long together?
Stewart
Originally I thought that I would be able to look after my wife at home but, as the realities hit, and with no family close by, I realised that long term care was inevitable at some point. I could battle on at home until the end but I think I would be doing this for myself rather than obtaining the best possible care for my wife.
It seems like the disease is always moving faster than I expect so I decided to look at care homes in advance. Most were dreadful but then I found a small home that seems ideal. The problem is that, being small, places come up very infrequently. However, they have just added two new rooms and I have to take a decision as to whether to try and get one of these rooms. I would have liked to consider this step in six months time or so but I am worried about missing this opportunity.
It is the most difficult decision that I have ever had to take. I really do not know how I will cope with the trauma of moving my lovely wife out of our home but I think that I must do it. I dread the thought of life after this. How does one adjust after so long together?
Stewart