Good afternoon
I am hoping someone can give me some advice.
My mother has become obsessed with her parents will - they died over 30 years ago - and has convinced herself she has proof that one of her brothers stole another brothers inheritance. She is threatening to get my cousins involved. All the people in her story including her brothers are dead apart from the brothers widow who has been a good and kind aunt who I would hate to be upset.
Her timeline is very confused and she says she has looked it all up in the library - which I know is impossible. I am having trouble coping with this obsession, I have tried to speak calmly to her, listen, agree to go with her to the library to see everything. She has said hurtful things to my late fathers side of the family and I am concerned she will upset her family. She does giggle sometimes and say shes started the ball rolling. If I explain it is upsetting me she just laughs and says it is only right she sees justice done. She was an executor of her parents wills.
She is comfortably off and has benefitted from inheritances in her life but is very jealous of any one inheriting any money. She is convinced her friends have inherited more than her and didnt deserve it!
I am finding this very stressful, its making me angry that she is willing to upset her neices and nephews and her own children. Everyday I see her it is the only thing she will talk about - I have actually been making excuses today not to see her and I am feeling vvvvvvvvvv guilty (I have spoken to her on the phone and she is vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv agitated about the wills)
Apologies for the ramblings, thank you for listening.
I am hoping someone can give me some advice.
My mother has become obsessed with her parents will - they died over 30 years ago - and has convinced herself she has proof that one of her brothers stole another brothers inheritance. She is threatening to get my cousins involved. All the people in her story including her brothers are dead apart from the brothers widow who has been a good and kind aunt who I would hate to be upset.
Her timeline is very confused and she says she has looked it all up in the library - which I know is impossible. I am having trouble coping with this obsession, I have tried to speak calmly to her, listen, agree to go with her to the library to see everything. She has said hurtful things to my late fathers side of the family and I am concerned she will upset her family. She does giggle sometimes and say shes started the ball rolling. If I explain it is upsetting me she just laughs and says it is only right she sees justice done. She was an executor of her parents wills.
She is comfortably off and has benefitted from inheritances in her life but is very jealous of any one inheriting any money. She is convinced her friends have inherited more than her and didnt deserve it!
I am finding this very stressful, its making me angry that she is willing to upset her neices and nephews and her own children. Everyday I see her it is the only thing she will talk about - I have actually been making excuses today not to see her and I am feeling vvvvvvvvvv guilty (I have spoken to her on the phone and she is vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv agitated about the wills)
Apologies for the ramblings, thank you for listening.